u/FrontStaff6174

hii! i’m 22, from England and i’m looking to meet some new people and hopefully make some genuine friendships (and open to a relationship if we click).

i’ve been vegan since 2018 for the animals and i’m really passionate about animal rights. i’d love to become more involved in activism in the future! i’m also really interested in social injustice, misogyny and generally talking about the things that are happening in the world. i love having conversations where we can actually challenge each other’s perspectives and learn from each other.

i’m starting university to study nutrition & dietetics to become a dietitian too.

outside of that, i’m into raves, gym, reading, travelling and just trying new things. i adore music & i’m always up for spontaneous plans or finding some new obsession to get into lol.

i’d especially love to meet people who are curious and compassionate about the world. if you’re vegan/vegetarian, into activism, love music or are just someone who has way too many things they want to experience in life, even better!

feel free to message me and tell me a little about yourself!! i’d love to hear from you

18 or under / 31 or over please don’t message — keeping this to 19–30 for safety reasons.

TLDR; My sister has struggled with drug use since 16, influenced by Lil Peep and becoming obsessed with the identity/lifestyle around drugs. She’s 20 and has escalated to regularly using Xanax and buying/using heroin, including making me watch her smoke it, while becoming obsessed with other drug users and seemingly romanticising the lifestyle. Our family is extremely dysfunctional and my parents have largely enabled her behaviour and I’m now the only person who knows ab her heroin use.

My sister stared doing xans when she was 16/17 because she was obsessed with lil peep and his lifestyle. I remember her telling me that she wanted to be like him and that's why she was getting xans. She started dating this severely mentally ill guy, who looked like "lil tracy" (lil peeps friend) and loved that he did benzos too. He was like her little accessory, who she can tell stories about, record his breakdowns and crazy messages, enjoyed the times where the police had to be called on him and tells every single person about their relationship, despite the fact that it was four years ago. She started doing xans most days. At 16, she spent months doing mdma every weekend and bringing people back to our house without permission. She has continuously posted drug pics on every social media platform because she seems to need to make it known she's an addict.

my dad used to blow up at her, call her a junkie loser and other names, pretend to threaten to kick her out (no punishments ever went through and there was also no understanding from him about her addiction). My parents did most drugs in 90s - never benzos, h or anything like that but they both did crack, mdma, coke, etc. Since my nan died (I was 18, she was 16) and my mom went through menopause, she has become a friend, rather than a parent, and we have been left to our own devices, with my dad overcompensating by being hostile. He has also been a terrible husband and emotionally absent father, which has affected my sister. There's a catch because her disrespectful terrible behavior made him act out in ways he shouldnt but her behavior is very aggravating. It's always been a badly dysfunctional family with no memories of good times.

To add, I'm 22 and autistic and ADHD. My mom is diagnosed with autism and ADHD, my dad for sure is autistic. She has adhd but she's always been extremely lazy too - stealing my clothes instead of buying her own and ruining them, never buying any bday presents, refuses to do any housework or anything for any family members, very disrespectful and clearly manipulative. My parents used to give her money for everything too, knowing she was spending it on mdma or weed, yet refused to pay for me to have therapy when i attempted suicide as a teen??. She used to take money from my card without asking to say "oh I was going to bank transfer it to you". She's always refused to wake up at a time that doesn't suit her, even if it's an important event, i.e my mom's bday or a family trip. I remember a couple years ago, my dads friend had to drive her to our event because she refused to wake up and smoked weed, then chucked all my belongings from my room in the hotel because she wanted the room ???? she's also recorded me after I woke up from a suicide attempt and sent it to all of her friends in aug 2025. she's blatantly disrespectful, cares soley about her image and has always had an array of friends who suck up to her so badly. they treat her she's like god and they seem to be obsessed with her , even though she switches between them all.. She can be lovely too and has tried to help us with our own issues in the past (e.g. trying to get me out of the house after my attempt, writing me a letter, talking through our issues) She wants to be a therapist and go to university next month.This can give you a general gist of the type of person she is

She went to rehab age 17 by choice and told every single person what happened. She appears to love the story of the abusive dad and I remember her gloating to her friend about it and exaggerating the reality. She loves telling everyone about her drug adventures and my parents act like it's normal to be telling random people u did mdma every week lol. She openly tells us she starves herself too and wants to be deathly thin. She always tells us that she's desperate to do heroin too and uses the dark web in front of my mom. My mom also has done drugs with us when she's upset, like coke, mdma and weed. 2 days ago, my sister ordered heroin off the dark web and made me watch her smoke it, with my mom being downstairs, knowing tht we had to go to her friends birthday in an hour. She came back after drinking, doing xans and did more heroin with her friend (who only smokes weed). She told me she likes jesse and jane from breaking bad and wants something like that, despite being a lesbian. Now she's obsessed with this former heroin addict guy and has bought heroin to him last night, so they can do it together and I'm guessing, in her head, reinact the scenes? She told me she's getting obsessed with him too. Her other friend just turned 18, seems impressionable and she's also an addict.

I'm the only person in the family who knows she's got heroin and I feel it's pointless telling my parents. They gave her 5k for a nose job (she had it 2 weeks ago), I told my parents she was scamming them by pretending to pay them back and she quit her job as soon as she had the operation, didn't take any of the medication for the surgery and went on a 5 day bender doing opiates, xans and weed with those specific friends. She also got 1k from a sugar daddy and keeps telling my dad, who sent her a text saying he will give her money and to not get it from random men (another manipulation tactic).

But yeah... i don't really know what to do about her. I told her that my mom was concerned when she only sent me instagram reels, while ignoring mine, my mom and dad's texts if she's okay. She said she doesn't care. My mom keeps shaking and crying because she's concerned about her and obviously has a suspicion of what she's doing over there. My dad spends as little time in the household as possible because it's so draining living here, so he has no idea.

What do I do about her? I said i'm concerned she will die and she said "now you know how I felt when you tried to kill yourself"?? Also, if this isnt the correct subreddit to post this here, I'd appreciate other options with active members.