Outed Today
I need some feedback and I don’t know where else to post this and ask.
I’m a music director at an affirming church. I have some paid college students who sing in our choir. I took two of them to lunch today, two students who I’ve known for about 5 years outside of church.
One student knows I’m gay but I had never told the other. I only told the one because he asked me one night after rehearsal and asked him not to tell anyone.
They were talking about someone who all of us know, and one student was saying he was such a homophobe. I never would have guessed it because the guy always seemed really kind and a stand-up man.
Well, the student who knows I’m gay said “if he was really a homophobe, why would he be cool with” and points at me.
I could tell the student who didn’t know was confused.
That’s the extent of what I need feedback on. I said how I don’t think this other guy who was not there is actually a homophobe, he just said things he thought was funny even if they aren’t really funny.
Conversation moved on.
I’m not exactly out but I’m not exactly closeted, either. I just keep to myself. I’m single. I don’t talk about my personal life.
I know the kid who outed me didn’t mean to hurt my feelings and I think was actually trying to stick up for me.
Should I say anything or just leave it?