AITA For ignoring my mom and making her (house) situation worse?
Context: I am a 23F who graduated college last year, moved out and surviving life near the city.
Around the beginning of last year, my mom suddenly came up with the ingenuous idea of buying a house. Of course, I immediately objected to the idea because this came several months after her buying a NEW car at a deplorable rate.
Well she suddenly picked up traction about buying her dream home at the beginning of this year, and told me she was "looking at houses" around February. That was when we got into a huge argument. I said she wasn't considering taxes, the maintenance, the insurance, and all these other small fees that would occur. She said it was better than throwing money at rent.
That was when I lay down the ultimatum. That I wasn't going to care at all about the house, or whatever she did. It was not going to be my problem.
To be fair, I thought she'd actually do some research for this going in. But what ended up happening was:
- She bought a house in the middle of nowhere, which means my sibling who's entering high school might end up in a completely different community/acacdemic percentage.
- She got the application through by transferring funds out of her retirement, which is now 50% depleted.
Well, it was her s***show and just hearing about all that stressed me the **** out, so I went on with life.
Yesterday, I visited her house when she wasn't there for the first time and found a few things. Like, you know those home inspection videos? I watched a few of them and thought I'd just look out for the basic things people run through on the checklist. Fortunately, there wasn't a lot, but some doorframes were uneven and the flooring was odd. I pointed them out to my sibling and left.
This morning, my sibling reported(?) that mom was crashing out because mom "can't believe I helped her move to the city but all she does is point out problems," and said mom was very "upset" that I didn't help her move, so she had to hire workers.
To be fair, she did help me move out of my college dorm and move to the city (although I didn't ask for it because I knew she was going to bite my a** later - she offered).
At this point, I think I'm just watching a train wreck waiting to happen. So AITAH for ignoring the situation completely, and refusing to help at all?