Dating losing a partner
I am not looking into dating anyone just yet. I lost my partner of over 5 years, alittle over 4 months ago. Since then his friends and other guys I know have come out and asked me out multiple times. Of course I said no because I just lost my best friend.
To start off I’m 25(female) I only ever been with two people, my ex of 4 years and my boyfriend of forever 5. I take pride on that. I am more attracted to older men. My bf was 40 when he passed. Truly my best friend, I was the one who was asking him out and pursued him. We had a great relationship, had some morals and values and views on life and the world. We were suppose to get married this year.
Of course many ask when are you gonna start dating again. I don’t plan on it anytime soon. But multiple men have asked me out. One tried to kiss me, another sent pics thinking I would be interested. I know men are very sexual thinkers, but for me, as a women it’s about respect for myself and my partner who passed away.
My question for older men 35+ years old is two things my friends and I have been debating. if a women who has high respects for herself, and you met a young girl who had a good job, saves money, lives at home, conservative values, old morals such as women stay home cook clean take care of the house, believes in god, works out, takes care of herself, and she told she was not interested in kissing or sexual relations until the man proved him worthy, such as this relationship will deepen and you can offer me more in life that isn’t videos games and sports.
My boyfriend was a real man who didn’t do any of that, he worked hard, got his hands dirty, and could take care of me. Like a real man should. Secondly, a man to be extremely loyal. I never once denied my bf anything he ever wanted or when. I take care of him and he takes care of me. I see no need to cheat but unfortunately there are men who do. A lot of his married friends have asked me out and it makes me sad because some I would’ve never guessed to cheat do.
Some may say kissing means nothing who cares. My point of view of it is this. If you and your friend are both equally attractive and I made out with both of you and then came back and said I want This one and keep talking to the one. To me that seems like I’m easy and I give in. Also takes away the exclusivity and there is nothing unique. Whats special about me if I just kissed every guy in the bar? And my friends feel differently but I feel like it’s kind of cheap. And sex makes it even worse if I just had sex with every guy what’s makes me special to you when all your friends and the guys you know already had me. It just diminished everything I had to offer.
What are your thoughts men who are older.