AITA for refusing to help my girlfriend's colleague's boyfriend get a job at my workplace?
I (25M) work abroad as a teacher and met my girlfriend Aubrey (26F) around 6 months ago. She has a colleague Paula (28F) that has been using dating apps for months now. Initially Paula insisted she wanted something serious. But Paula was also specifically seeking very rich guys that would give her money in return for her company. Despite these guys clearly not being serious, she was indulging in it all because she was getting money and expensive gifts, bragging about it to Aubrey. Paula did also match with people who genuinely wanted to have a serious relationship with her, but she had no interest in them because they weren’t wealthy. Despite having no interest in these guys, she still tried to get some money out of them.
Recently, Paula met some guy called Jim using the travel mode of the dating app, and despite knowing each other for less than a month, they’re serious. All they’ve done is video chat and she’s met his parents and they’re already talking about marriage. They haven’t even met in real life yet. But Jim went on about how he was going to fly to see Paula and they can finally meet, which is fine. But then they started talking about how they were planning for him to move here which seems so quick.
To allow his move, they began looking for jobs here and happened to find an opening for the exact place that I’m working at. They told Aubrey, who seemed to tell them that I would be happy to help Jim get a job there. This was weird to me for so many different reasons.
- I don’t know Jim and to be honest, I don’t even know Paula either, I only hear about her from Aubrey.
- Jim does not meet the basic requirements of the job (though he could get qualified in theory).
- Jim apparently works a marketing job that pays very well back where he is living, yet he is willing to drop it all for what is honestly a pretty underpaid job.
- Jim hasn’t even known Paula for a month, yet he’s willing to do this at all.
What made this feel even more insane is that Paula said that even if Jim wasn’t able to get a job and a work visa, she would marry him straight away since she didn’t want to do long distance. When Aubrey told me all of this I said that I would not be helping Jim get a job at my workplace. This all just sounded so unhinged to me, but Aubrey kept insisting it was different this time and that Paula was serious. She said that it was natural that Paula was so gung ho about marriage now that she’s finally found a decent and serious guy after months of sleazy guys, but Paula was genuinely enjoying that lifestyle back then.
Aubrey and Paula think that I’m in the wrong for not helping and supporting this, since to them, it's a perfect chance for Paula to be happy.
AITA for not helping Jim and thinking that this situation is completely messed up?
Tl:dr: My girlfriend wants me to help her colleague’s boyfriend get a job but I think the situation is way too unhinged for me to be comfortable to be doing that.