How do sexual partners differ
Firstly, I don't know if this is relevant in this sub, and I know this isn't just a straight forward question - more a series of thoughts & questions, but I'm just hoping that it will start a bit of discussion about what makes sex good and how it differs from person to person & male/female.
What brought this up: to me, my (36M) ex-girlfriend (32F) was the best sex I've ever had in my life. The reason for that is (I think) because basically, we were extremely sexually compatible. I had never really had a proper sexual partner before her - only short things with women for like a couple of months or so.
She could cum from penetration, and I could make her cum really easily from fucking her (not tooting my own horn, just being factual) - to the point where I could literally make her cum consecutively, over and over again, just from fucking her. I could make her cum from oral as well, but no where near as much as I could from penetration. I could also make her cum, after we'd had sex, literally by stroking her body up and down. It all made for probably the most intense, crazy, satisfying sex I've ever had or ever will have in my life.
She would regularly say how incredible I was, how perfect my cock is (it's slightly above average). From all of this, I gathered that she'd probably never been satisfied by a guy before like she had been by me.
I like to think I know what I'm doing in bed - I'm deeply conscious of how important the build up, foreplay, attentiveness, and not "just pounding away", but I don't think the way I fucked her was particularly special... But then, I don't really know how other men fuck, or what other women think of as 'good' sex.
Since her, I've slept with 4 women, and none of them have been anywhere near as easy to satisfy as her, but all of them have said that the sex is good. I'm currently dating a girl, and we have really good sex, and I can make her cum fairly easily from oral, but it's really difficult to make her cum from penetration, because she cums mainly from clitoris stimulation.
It's left me wondering - was the way I fucked my ex really that different to how other men have in the past or might in the future? Or had she just never met a guy that actually knew what he was doing? Was she just really easy to satisfy and was I really, really lucky to find a girl that was as easy to satisfy as her?
I guess I'm looking for some perspective because I kind of feel a little deflated that I might never have sex like that again - were we really just that lucky to have found each other? Should I just kind of consider myself lucky to have experienced sex like that, and lower my expectations because it's really quite rare?
As a male or female, how do you feel sex differs from partner to partner? What makes sex good to you?