What do I do I’ve never been on this situation?
So I’m having my first kid in September and my partner and I are having a baby shower. Not a big deal but my partners side doesn’t really have a taste or the pockets my side of the family has. (Side note we just worked hard to get where we are compared to the lifestyle her family has which is more of a I have what I need mentality rather than I want more than this) which that is okay but we have worked hard to have what we have. But that’s besides the point, my mother wants to have this nice lavish baby shower and is setting it all up even paying for it, the problem is that it’s making my partner feel uncomfortable and also her side of the family feel uncomfortable. It’s also to note I am her oldest child and this is also my first child so she wants something that she couldn’t do for herself when she was having me. I don’t know how to feel or what to even do she’s saying she doesn’t want my mothers name on my child’s name anymore and that she feels disrespected bc her mother can’t afford the things my mother can and how a lavish baby shower is too much, my mother is getting a head start on it planning on in advance come pared to the shower her mother is trying to throw her but hasn’t even started to get invitations out or even find a venue. Thoughts?