Wow, an actual community for people like me. Been struggling with this for my whole 7 years of marriage.
Hey, I’ve been with my husband for 10 years. Married for 7 years. From the night of our honeymoon, he has no interest or desired to have sex with me. Making excuses for not wanting intimacy. Flat out rejecting me. We have gone to many therapists. No resolution. Many plans in progress on how to change this. He doesn’t do any of the work. I have done everything from cry. To yell. To distance myself. I have slept in a separate bedroom for about 3 years. Only to find out ….drumroll please … he has a porn addiction. So would rather look at any other woman online then have me in person. I’m a very sexual person and I have told him I want to try many things. Want to be adventurous. Now I’ve had to totally shut myself down. Which is making me miserable. I can’t be who I truly am. He says now he will change and there is still no hope. Has anyone been a situation like this and turned it around?