Does he care? And what does he want? Am I’m being played or am I just for convenience and validation ?
I’m a ScorpioF. I’ve known a Taurus man since mid time of last year. He’s one of neighbors to be exact. How this all started… I walked by him one day walking my dog. He was talking to another neighbor. We didn’t speak but just said hello. Afterwards- he started showing up at the dog park. We talked a couple of times at the park and then he offered to send me a link to something so hence for asked for my number. After that, we went out a couple of times. The second time was with my sister. I texted him afterwards that I enjoyed hanging out and thank you for coming along. He responded a week later… fast forward… we see each other at the dog park a couple of more times and he says to me… “I went out on a date last night.” I’m puzzled for a second… unsure of why he told me but I assumed he was putting me in the friend zone. So I asked how the date went and so on. Then after going back and forth for a bit- he abruptly gets up and leaves. Months go by and I don’t see him as much. Just here and there. January of this year- we are at the dog park and he states “I broke up with my girlfriend .” In my mind, I didn’t even know he had one! So I asked him if he’s okay, and he said yes. Moving on, he starts asking to hang out more and inviting me over for movies. Nothing happens per se. he would softly touch my back and hand. He’s acted protective as well- offering to help me pick out a gun for my safety and even bought my ammo and cleaning kit. We hadn’t even hugged… until one day… we smoked together. I was laying on his couch and he gets up and sits on me to be funny and then we eventually make our way to the bedroom. As you can imagine what entailed afterwards… the next day I ask to talk and he said of course we can talk. I go over and I ask him what the other day meant to him and bottom line he said he wasn’t looking for a relationship. I became triggered and very upset… like snot nose crying… it caught him and myself off guard. Super embarrassing but he was very kind to me. I kept trying to leave and he insisted I stay and talk until I calmed down. He kept offering hugs and food. He said he didn’t mean to hurt me and hoped we could still hang out. I told him I didn’t want to see him ever again!! Eventually I left and after a few days I knocked on his door. I told him I don’t like being at odds with people and I would okay with being friends. Since then, I see him a the dog park time to time. He will still “notice” things about me and mention them. He has sent me a friend request on Facebook and has wanted to go swimming and invited me to a family range day- but only after I had mentioned my step dad couldn’t make it to go shooting with me. He kind of flaked on our swim day… I think he wanted me to mention it- as I saw him the morning of the day he said we would go. We talked and he asked me what I was doing that day… I didn’t want to mention it bc I had asked to hang out before and he has said no. I’d really like to run for the hills but I want to be better about having more fulfilling relationships in my life. At this point I just want to know if I matter to him at all or is it all a game? Did or does he have feelings for me? Ect ect ect…