Non-traditional wedding
EDIT - sorry to clarify I haven’t picked ceremony time yet, when I say morning I just don’t mean late. When I say nibbles I mean a buffet that the pub will provide, it’s a gastro pub.
EDIT 2 - I understand not everyone will agree with my non-traditional simple wedding. But I will make it clear I also know my guests very well and we are not party people and an older crowd. And for people saying FFS you’re only in your 30s/40s it’s not old. I know it’s not but the majority of guests are 70 plus. The younger ones in our age group are all tired parents who don’t drink much and like an early night. I know my guests.
EDIT 3 - wow! I didn’t realise how upset some people would get. Chill. Don’t worry you’re not invited to my wedding. 😂
EDIT 4 - people calling me names like boring I don’t appreciate. I have thyroid disease and suffer badly with fatigue. To ALL THE LOVELY people who have offered constructive feedback whether they like my ideas or not MASSIVE THANK YOU. No need to be personal or mean, and to those that are good luck to your partners.
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Hello all,
I wanted to get some opinions on this rather non-traditional wedding plan which me and my fiancé really want.
- morning church wedding (50 guests)
- walk to pub (right next door, a minute walk) for pub garden nibbles/drinks for around a couple of hours.
- day ends for majority of guests around 5pm/6pm.
- 20 of the guests (parents, siblings, nieces, bridesmaids and groomsmen etc) to arrive at a fine dining restaurant, 10 minute drive down the road for dinner in a private dining room.
The restaurant has a lovely art deco vibe, beautiful food and lovely bar area. We want some live music in the evening as well. Hopefully all wrapped up around 11pm.
We don’t want a disco, we are not party people to be honest and I don’t want a first dance.
We want something that feels more intimate but we also want all our guests to feel included, which is why we want to go to the pub after and I think people (not that it will be advertised) would understand that we want an intimate dinner in the evening with parents etc.
Does this sound okay? I know it’s not usual but we are older (mid 30s/ early 40s) and I just don’t want the big white wedding.
When I told my mum the plan she seemed disappointed with it. I cried I actually thought she would love the idea but I’m wondering if there’s something we are doing that is wrong.
Any feedback welcome.
Thank you 🙏🏻