can i find love with BPD
I was recently diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder at 18, and honestly it's been a bit scary trying to process what that means for my future and relationships.
One thing my therapist pointed out is that because I crave love and reassurance so intensely, I tend to become attached very quickly to anyone who gives me attention at the right moment. And the hard part is that it feels true. I develop crushes really easily, sometimes not because I genuinely know or deeply like the person, but because they made me feel seen, wanted, or emotionally safe.
What scares me is the idea that maybe l'll never be able to love someone in a healthy or genuine way. I don't want relationships to just be based on obsession, dependency, or the feeling of finally being wanted. I want to love someone for who they are as a person, not just because of what they do for me emotionally.
also with everyone around me being in relationships i so desperately want to be loved too but i don’t want to get into a relationship fir the wrong reasons or with the wrong person but i so desperately want to be loved and feel loved
I know a lot of people say intense attachment and idealization can happen with BPD, but I guess I'm wondering if this gets better with time and therapy. Have any of you learned how to tell the difference between genuine love and just becoming attached because someone gave you attention? And have you been able to build healthy relationships despite having
I think i am just scared that ill feel emotions too intensely to know if they are actually real and not feeding into my traits