What I be going against my dad's last wish if I contact my cousins?
I'm struggling with something and would love to hear your thoughts. I lost my dad when I was 21 due to brain cancer and after he passed my mom started sharing stories about his side of the family. Mostly negative ones. The thing is I haven't actually known them since I was a baby, so I've never met them as an adult and don't know them at all. My dad also made it clear before he died that he didn't want his sister at his funeral. The family conflict stems partly from how they treated my mom because of where she's from and there were tensions around inheritance from when my grandmother died from cancer and other issues too. Now I'm curious about their side of the story and wondering if I should reach out to my cousins. But here is why I'm struggling. Would reaching out to them go against my dad's wishes? Part of me wants to hear what they have to say, but I'm also unsure if it's the right move. Has anyone been in a similar situation? Should I do it? And how would you approach it? I'd really appreciate hearing your experiences and thoughts.