I think my NK might have autism. Should I do or say anything?
I have worked with my NF for almost 4 years. He is an only child who is diagnosed with ADHD. I have long been suspicious that he might be autistic for a variety of reasons, some of which are his sensitivity to sound, his difficulties socializing, and his tip toe walking. The biggest thing is his inability to hold a conversation that is not about his special interest. These “conversations” are really just him monologuing about his interest, sometimes for hours, with little to no desire for input from others. Because he is an only child, I do not think his parents realize that this is atypical behavior. I have tried to point out these behaviors, but I don’t think his parents think much of it. I am afraid to mention anything else to his parents, as I am obviously not a medical professional, so I am of course incapable of diagnosing him, and I could definitely be wrong.
He has a therapist that he sees weekly for ADHD. I also have the therapists contact info. I am considering sharing my concerns with his therapist so that he can bring it up to NF if he deems it necessary. Would this be inappropriate? I really love my family and would not want to do anything to step out of line or cross a boundary. I’m afraid they might be offended if I suggest myself that he might have autism, as DB was initially reluctant to even get him an ADHD diagnosis. I’d appreciate some advice on how to move forward, or whether it is worth it/appropriate to do anything at all.