Ageplay and Aftercare with hookup
I've been hooking up with this guy for a while now and have noticed some things about him that both make me amused and sad, and I wanted some opinions on how to approach him for these topics:
- he's a submissive man, really likes when I make decisions for him and take control on the bedroom but there's particular instances where he gets overwhelmed and tells me that i can do anything to him, literally anything. Im always careful about it as to not hurt him or make him uncomfortable and it's nice. but I had some suspiscions about him being into ageplay (he loves being pampered, held close to my body and sucking on my nipples) especially after i sent him a meme about it and he said "thats me" and it was confirmed that he's into it, which is not a problem to me at all, i just dont know how to navigate initiating intimacy with this kink in mind (would love to hear some ideas) or how i start a conversation about it to ask him what he likes and doesnt like.
- i also noticed that after sex he becomes kinda distant. I talked about it with him and asked if he wanted some aftercare and he said it usually doesnt work for him and that he rather just talk and distract himself (we usually take a shower together and eat something after). but i really feel weird not having some affection after sex, it's like he doesnt want to touch me anymore after we do it and it kinda hurts me, i just dont know how to approach him about it and find a middle ground for us both.