I went through the temple for my endowment and sealing to my husband in 1997. I don't remember most things about it. Is it possible that it was so traumatic that I've blocked the whole thing out?
My mother and former in-laws are still TBM. I don't want to hurt or strain family relationships more than I have to, and all of them live thousands of miles from me. Former in-laws are from a prominent family in the church and very heavily into geneolgy.
I had a six month old baby at the time (my first). I was asked to be in the nursery. I was a SAHM, undiagnosed bipolar and horribly depressed and lonely. We were in a newlywed /nearly dead ward and relief society was the only time I had adult interactions with anyone besides my husband. The bishop looked absolutely mortified that I said no. I stand by my decision to this day