u/FunZombie3875

my girlfriend and I (wlw) have been together for almost 7 months and have tried to be intimate many times. unfortunately, i have never once in my life finished. not by myself, not with her, never. I always feel so terrible because she tries so hard, and she's bought so many different toys to experiment with in hopes of satisfying me— vibrators, grinders, dildos, etc— but it always ends the same. it feels pleasant for like 2 minutes, then I hit a wall and just feel numb and tired. I never make any noise when we're together, barley even heavy breathing. I just close my eyes and try to make myself enjoy it. when we're done, I never feel satisfied, just exhausted. I feel desperate to feel pleasure, and hollow because nothing we try helps. it makes me feel like a failure. and then I always feel awful when it's her turn to feel good, and she can turn over and pleasure herself immediately while I lie there. I know I'm not ace, I crave the feeling and the intimacy and the pleasure, but I've never gotten it. I don't know what else to do, and I love being initiate with her but it breaks my heart every time she works so hard to make me feel good, and I don't even react. any advice? what should I do??