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My partner got angry at me for trying to sleep train our one year old. She refuses her own bed I feel I’m becoming a very dislikable irritable Moany person as I don’t get the right sleep due to her being in my arms all night. It is driving me insane as she is over the age of one. Has fallen out of the bed, she wakes multiple times etc and is just very difficult at night time. So I decided to try sleep train her where I have her in the cot beside us and she does cry of course because she does not want to be there she would rather be in the bed. He says it’s selfish of me. Selfish to have him be woken by her cries as he’s working the following day. I try to take her out to the living room I try to make co sleeping work but with me my partner and the baby but it’s nearly impossible I don’t get a good sleep. He immediately got angry said I’m selfish said I need to get a grip and i need to shut up because I “get a good sleep “ he’s “seen me sleep good” it feels he belittles me and it makes me feel guilty for having him be woken up at 10pm or 11pm when he has work the next day due to our one year old crying upon transfer to the cot. I need help and guidance do I cut him some slack because he is working the next day? And because I’m home with her I need to suck it up? If he’s out working the following day? Do I need to just keep all three of us in the bed for a while and have my sleep be affected for longer?

How would you react if the grandmother on your partners side posted on your babies first birthday before you had?

Me and my ex partner (now) have since split since having our almost one year old baby. A lot of things happened which led to this point but we are no longer together. His family are planning a first birthday party in his gran parents house for my daughters first birthday and my ex partner says “I don’t want you to come” . It hurts me because well I went through an emergency c cection to get her here? I’m her mother? I don’t want to miss anything or feel like I don’t exist. I understand we aren’t together but I just think why is he creating this dynamic because he doesn’t want me there? He was invited to my families birthday dinner for her. He was always invited regardless if we argued or didn’t get along recently we would suck it up and show up for our daughter. His family have previously went against my wishes and kissed her multiple times too on top of all of this it makes me really sad and uncomfortable if I’m not there. I feel like this break up has ruined every joy I felt going into her birthday . She only turns one once and I feel like everybody is just against me. Doesn’t want me there and it’s getting me down. Would you be upset? Would you agree with my ex and think it’s not a great idea?

I am extremely anxious and paranoid about my daughter being posted in football tops . Especially cover photos or profile pictures. The reason being is having 0 contact with my biological father, I won’t get into details of what I endured in childhood but it wasn’t great. He supports the same team as my partner does. My family on my mums side support the opposing the team I just so happened to meet a man that supports the same team as my biological father. My biological dad is the type of man to steal photos of her in these football tops send them around to his family potentially keep them and post for himself without my consent that’s just what he does I do not want to contact him I just would rather these pictures were not posted as profile pictures or cover photos himself or his family could find. My partners mother took a photo of my daughter in this football top my partner took and made it her cover photo bare in mind she does not know about any of this . But I addressed it with my partner I said look for my own sanity can we just not post her in the football tops it’ll take a long time to block my father along with 50 other blood relatives who could just easily find and send them over to him. He is the type of person to dig for pictures. My partner didn’t agree to this. He knows what I endured as a child and my worries & he does not want to comply. He feels himself and his mother should be allowed to post whatever they like. Now this is not to be a horrible person. This is out of concern. I would rather these pictures just weren’t accessible at all. Whether you have a private account or not people can find your profile pictures or cover photos or even through mutual friends. I need advice if this is too much of an ask? Am I overthinking it. Is my partner right should him and his mum be able to post her in this football top whenever they please and potentially let my dad find this and not respect my wishes?