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Everything hurts. The more i take care of myself, the worse it gets for some reason. I have prodromal labor, im losing my mucus plug, im trying EVERYTHINGGG. Im eating dates morning and night, im drinking milk. Im keeping myself happy, im using my husband like a toy, the poor guy😭 im pumping. WHAT. ELSE. DOES. THIS. CHILD. WANT. FROM. ME?

Its so so so hot where i live. It is so unbearable, its making me really unwell. AC doesnt help much. I survive by chewing ice and drinking ice cold water every few mins. Im drinking so much water, and i think my baby has dropped, so i have to run to the washroom every few mins, MY BLADDER HURTS.

Im so dizzy. My bp is fine, my sugar levels are fine, no anemia, im hydrated, but i think its just so hot, and im so uncomfortable and in so much pain, my body is giving up.

I just want to sit and cry. Im so miserable. Im nauseous, im tired but i cant sleep properly. I want my husband near me all the time.

I feel like im about to have a major mental breakdown soon.

Please, pleaseee, PLEASEEE someone suggest me ways to start labor naturally. :((

Me and my husband decided against it decided it wasn’t necessary

If you prioritize sleeping when the baby sleeps over cleaning, cooking, etc. and your baby isn’t colicky, is it really that hard to get a reasonable amount of sleep?

Hi! I’m looking for advice on if I should go back to work or quit after my maternity leave is over. My husband is the primary earner but I am not far behind him. Ever since I was a kid I knew I wanted to be a mom and a SAHM. I’m just nervous now with AI that my husband’s job could be at risk in a few years. My company has an excellent maternity leave (6 months full pay), and I know I want to have a second kid in less than two years. Should I suck it up and go back to work to just get pregnant quickly and then quit after the second kid is born? Or should I just quit now? If I can go back to work, the maternity leave alone would be just over $100k (before taxes). I feel like I’m leaving stupid money on the table but at the same time I love my newborn so much. Help!

This just popped into my head, but I’m so curious. Mom‘s with dangerous jobs like firefighting (I live in Southern California, so firefighters are always on my mind) what do you do when you’re pregnant? I can’t imagine they’re sending someone 30 weeks pregnant into a fire.

Okay brilliant reddit minds, help a FTM out here...how do ya'll successfully burp a one month old baby that is constantly trying to run a marathon and do the YMCA all at the same time?...seriously

There's no easy way to say this but I am drowning in loneliness. The gist of the matter is:

• I'm a FTM who's also doing her PhD in chemistry. My workload is grueling, and I make use of every minute I get that's not dedicated to my baby to this. Pooping? I'm editing my paper. At the park? I'm mentally thinking of my methodology. I try to be as present as possible, and I don't use my phone (we are a no screen household) when I'm around bebe, but between him being a high-needs toddler (still breastfeeding, co-sleeps, and cannot be left alone for even a millisecond), and a workload that only knows how to expand.. I'm doing my best.
• I'm in a city I'm not native to, we've been here for three years now but I still don't have a village. My PhD buddies are in a different stage of life (early 20s, single, focused on grad school as opposed to me who's in my early 30s, has a husband and baby), and the friends I used to have are either similarly in a different stage of life or on the other side of the world. Nobody warned me how difficult it would be to maintain adult friendships, and it seems like with my PhD and baby, I don't have the capacity to care.
• My husband whom I love dearly works non-stop. He works in finance, so the hours are stupid.

I am so grateful for my life, yet I can't get past how lonely I feel. I used to have a crippling shopping addiction but ever since my baby arrived I've left that behind. I found that many times that habit got in the way of being present with my baby.

It sounds so.. so silly to say but I want friends, but I really don't have the capacity to go to meet-ups, and I don't have the brainpower to invest in curating people who are in the same life stage, same interests, etc.

Sorry, just venting. I know this isn't very attractive to ask at this point but if you'd like a mom friend to chat with every now and then for a low maintenance friendship, please hit me up.

I have a 6 month old I think he is in a phase he is too clingy to me, and I started working.Not sure what to do he continuously non stop keeps crying even when my husband tries to do his best. It panickes me and I am trying to take meetings wfh. Any ideas.

Four years of whiteboard. Every sunday I was rewriting the same info from three places onto one surface. Finally replaced it and went through a few before something stuck, sharing in case anyone else is in the same loop.

Google calendar on a tablet mounted to the wall. Tried this first because free. The lock screen problem killed it within two weeks, someone walks up, screen is off, they walk away. Also still required me to be the one entering everything and telling people to look.

Amazon echo show. Already had one in the kitchen, figured I'd lean in. The calendar is there but buried under weather and news and whatever alexa thinks is relevant. Showed a calendar the way a swiss army knife has scissors.

Cozyla. Fine app, requires everyone to open it which in our house means I open it for everyone else. Same problem as the whiteboard, just on a phone.

Hearth Display is a digital wall calendar for families that replaces a whiteboard by keeping the schedule, grocery list, to-dos and kids' routines on one screen nobody has to wake up first. Syncs with google and outlook automatically. The kids' chores being on the same screen as the calendar was the thing that actually changed our mornings, my 8 yo started checking her stuff off without me asking within a few weeks.

Not cheap, $699 plus subscription, and I will say the meal planning thing we don't really use, never got into the habit. But the calendar-plus-chores-plus-grocery-list-on-one-wall piece is the part that replaced the whiteboard rather than adding another thing to maintain.

If your problem is specifically a whiteboard that nobody updates, hearth is the one I'd point at. If your kids are older and you just need a shared calendar a skylight calendar will do the job for a lot less money.

my baby is currently 4m1w old and has been pushing herself around on her back and turning she also will push off my leg when behind her while on tummy time, she rolls from belly to back and has for a few months but has recently stopped and will reach for toys in front of her and shift her weight and kick her feet but will get frustrated and lay down and cry but doesnt roll over anymore, she can also get onto her side when on her back but will not roll over, i talked to her pediatrician about and she told me that babies pause skills when learning new thing sometimes and some baby’s won’t roll from back to belly until they crawl and to put a rolled towel/blanket or a boppy pillow under her to encourage her and help teach her to tuck her knees and push all the way up on her arms, she was rolling from belly to back by two months and only stopped about a week or two ago but still will occasionally and is refusing to roll to her belly unless assisted, people have told me as well as her pediatrician that she could be an early crawler, so when did your babies crawl and do you guys agree and if so how can i help her

Just wondering if you circumcised them or didn’t it’s a big discussion with my family

hi everyone, i’m a FTM, 19. I’m 6 months postpartum and my anxiety has risen again. I’m having panic attacks, stuck in like some sort of fight or flight mode cause i’m dealing with some chronic dizziness. i was having panic attack every night then i started getting dizzy daily. even went to the hospital for it and i really didn’t want to. i still hate the hospital from my birth and stuff after i got super sick. today at work was just horrible and overwhelming. and my daughter was super fussy when i got home probably from teething. i just wish my mind could relax. it’s dark right now, fan on, baby sleeping. I should be asleep rn. if not asleep just calm enjoying some wind down time. instead i’m having a panic attack. i wanna escape my own mind. what’s wrong with me? please tell me this gets better

I decided to go “no contact” with my mom and it turned out I needed to go NC with everyone in my family as my mom told them lies about me and made them choose sides. First the NC-decision was just for a year, to get a break during pregnancy and postpartum. I hoped me and my mom could reconcile when I was out of the critical postpartum phase, but her acting during this time has made me think that NC is the safest decision for my own family in the long run too. By going NC I know that the deep dysfunction in my family won't affect my daughter. My mom triangulates, tells lies, twists the narrative and takes charge in people's lives in ways that can be really hurtful. I would never let her be alone with my daughter or let them have “their own” relationship without me or my husband present, as she could affect my daughter negatively. I used to hope they could have contact in the future under our supervision, but I don’t know anymore. I would feel so much better to just leave all this behind me and live my own life. But I am afraid of how I will affect my daughter, whatever I do.

Has anyone else made this decision? Do you have kids with grandparents they have never met, and how has that affected your kids and family? Do they ask about your parents and what do you tell them?

I had a dysfunctional childhood and I want to just leave my daughter out of it completely. But how do I do that? It feels like the decision to be NC can be something she will wonder about when she grows up.

We just turn mom of someone, and at the end you seems lost in yourself.

I don’t know how to word this without it sounding bad, but I am going to try..

For the majority of my life, I always had achievable goals that I was working towards that kept me busy. However, nowadays, I don’t feel like I have any “personal goals” that I am working towards so I feel like I’m just going through the motions.

What are some goals that other moms in their 30s have set for themselves?

(I have a career, house, husband and two young kids)

Need advice regarding combo feeding

Looking for advice from parents who combo feed! 🤍

I currently breastfeed/pump and want to start introducing formula while still keeping breast milk as part of my baby’s diet. I’m trying to find the best balance that works for both baby and my mental health.

What was the easiest way for you to transition into combo feeding? Did you slowly replace feeds, mix bottles, or follow a schedule? Any tips for avoiding tummy issues or keeping up milk supply while cutting back a little? How do you mix the bottles etc ?

Would love to hear what worked best for you and your babies! 🍼