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Hi all - positive vibes only please

I'm sitting here with my 8 month old and I just found out I'm pregnant again. We wanted 2, but didn't think it'd happen this quickly. The first took several years.

I'm just looking for good stories, I'm really scared and excited for the future.

Thanks ☺️

Looking for positive stories about bleeding a couple days after many positive tests. Barely any on the pad but rusty color blood when I wipe. Thanks 🥺

Any other mom tell their kid: if you’re going to run and yell in the house go outside. Or am I just old school? We live in a safe area and have a fenced in backyard so when they are too loud I make them go outside.

I just need somewhere to express my frustration and vent!! I am a FTM to a perfect 7 month old girl. I’m just soooo frustrated because our families just do NOT respect our boundaries. We said no kissing while she was a newborn. My MIL would still kiss her and then be like “hehe oops, not supposed to do that!” Then we loosened the reigns a bit once out of the newborn phase and allowed kisses on top of the head. Maybe that was a mistake because now we’re saying “please no kissing as we enter cold/flu/RSV season” and nobodyyyy is listening!!! We gently remind people every time they hold her. My MIL had my baby’s hands in her mouth last time we saw her! My mom keeps kissing her forehead. My step mom kissed her hands. Ugh! Maybe it’s me being too crazy?? I know she is just very loved and I love that, but I almost feel this primal (?) sense of protection as we enter sick season. It’s making me feel crazy!! It makes me never want to let people hold her lol and then these same people want to spend time with her alone……. How am I supposed to feel comfortable leaving my baby with you when you won’t even respect our boundaries right in front of me? Ugh! She won’t take a bottle so that’s not an option anyway but… grrr! I hope I don’t always feel this crazy about this lol. Thanks for giving me the space to vent!!!

I just had my third baby, and EVERYONE wants to hold this kid, all the time. We fight over him. It’s ridiculous. And it doesn’t help that he’s the easiest, most chill baby ever. Okay so anyways I don’t know if that’s the reason why I’m super obsessed and even possessive over him, or if it’s the fact that we were TTC for a while and experienced a loss before he was conceived, or if it’s the fact that he might be our last baby.. but I am really possessive. I want to hold him all the time. I don’t go anywhere without him. I don’t like to share him. You can hold him for 5 or 10 minutes, and then I want him back. (And I’m not saying I don’t let anyone hold him for longer than that.. I do. It just kills me inside.)

But here’s my biggest thing.. I do all of the work for this kid, right? I break my back to breastfeed him, I change him, I bathe him, I wash his laundry, change his clothes, take him to the doctor, spent 9 months being miserable to make him perfectly perfect, stress about whether he’s getting enough milk, how often he’s pooping, oversee his big sister while she’s holding him to make sure he doesn’t get dropped or broken, etc., etc. I do it all. So if you’re holding him for an extended period of time and then happen to notice that his diaper is wet.. guess what? Congrats. That’s your diaper to change. Why should I come change it for you just so you can go back to holding my perfect sweet angel baby? I do all the work to make him happy, just so you can hold him while he’s happy or asleep? I don’t think so. If you want to hold him for hours while he sleeps, you can also change his goddamn diaper.

At 45, raising my 3.5 year old daughter often takes me back to my own childhood. I hug her, kiss her, cuddle her, and tell her how deeply she is loved. Yet sometimes, every embrace reminds me of what I never received from my own mother. There were no hugs, kisses, or affectionate touches for me. What makes it harder is knowing my younger brother experienced the opposite. He received that warmth as a child, and even now, in his middle age, my mother openly showers him with physical affection. Watching this still hurts. Somewhere inside me, that little girl still wonders: Why not me?

ftm//
my daughter will be a little over 6 months old on christmas, i’m trying to look at things now and get some ideas for our family to get her but im stumped lol. what are some gifts we could recommend or get for her this year??
i know she won’t remember her first Christmas but we will. we’ve already agreed we do not want to go overboard or have our parents go crazy either.