I would like some advice on how to set boundaries with my brother who is in active addiction. he's married with kids. My sister Od'd and is currently day 17 since being in a medically induced coma. we are hopeful she will come out of a hypoxic brain injury but she has a long road ahead and we don't know what kind of defecits she will have. This event has shaken our family. We get together for Xmas and birthdays and other events with my brother throughout the year. Aside from that, I don't have much of a relationship with Him. I am terrified he's next in line od wise. The only real boundary I can place is say that I am unwilling to go to these events if he is present unless and until he actively seeks help and gets sober. Is it fair of me to believe I am enabling him if I go to his bday and other events while he continues to use? especially considering our other siblings is hanging in limbo. any insight is appreciated