Feeling lost adult stepson
I am feeling so lost with my situation. My 20SS and his girlfriend moved in with us 9 months ago. Our house was a large room downstairs. Her mother has come to visit 3 times, totally fine. Once I was upset large amount of food rubbish was left in my other sons room where she stayed. GF mother is heavily involved with drama with the 20SS mother (we don't talk to as she has clear mental health problems and continuous harassed myself and my husband online. Her mother will message me plans, things they are doing and her and her daughter get extremely upset when I tell my 20SS. E.g we are going away and can I come stay while you are gone etc. Its an awkward situation but why is my 20SS not included in the plans that are being made about his life, and when her mother comes, her and the daughter fight, last time there were tears and the mother looks to us for comfort. I have struggled to keep my mouth shut over extremely concerning plans that the mother and daughter have, e.g have a baby in the next 12 months while her daughter can't get up to go to work and my 20SS has no idea