u/Funny_Engineering580

Should I just do IVF and call it a day?

I’ve had one ectopic pregnancy, 2 chemical pregnancies, and am currently experiencing a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks - all within the span of about 14 months. My RPL is all normal. Karyotyping and DNA frag all normal on my husband. We’ve never ruled out endo or PCOS, but I’ve never had a doctor suspect it either. My RE has chalked all the losses up to chromosomal abnormalities, but she’s an IVF doctor by trade so seems partial to this strategy. I seem to get pregnant pretty much every single time we try. I saw a gal on here the other day saying her RE had a theory that her uterine lining seemed to accept any sperm and egg combo and that kinda of feels like it could be me. I have a high AMH of 5.6, so I’m sure there’s a bunch of poor quality eggs in there 🥹.

I haven’t spoken to a doctor about hyper fertility or the kitchen sink protocol or anything of the sort. With the first three pregnancies, all of them had wonky hCGs so no doctor recommended progesterone support in case it supported a tubal pregnancy. For this pregnancy, I was just happy to see it was intrauterine. Small wins. But this loss sucks because I had all the symptoms: food aversion and nausea, exhaustion, consistently sore breast. My nipples popped out to prepare for breastfeeding. Everything seemed promising and hCG draws were all normal in the beginning.

Have I met my max or should I try something else before moving to IVF? I haven’t explored any RI options yet, but am concerned about cost benefit scenarios. IVF would probably be between $5-10k for us because we live in California and can use insurance options. I’ve already spent so much fucking money on supplements, doctors/ER visits, acupuncture, etc. Maybe I should just call it here and invest?

Looking for unbiased advice before I let my IVF clinic convince me.

Edit: I’m 34 years old

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u/Funny_Engineering580 — 8 days ago

Any miscarriage friends in San Diego?

Reddit is great, but I feel like I need to talk to folks who have been through this. I am so craving interpersonal support right now as I go through my 4th miscarriage. Hugs to all y’all around the world, though.

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u/Funny_Engineering580 — 9 days ago

Can someone help me read this? Are the measurements included on this? I could see fetal pole, yolk sack, and gestational sack but no heartbeat yet. They said to come back in a week. The whole thing went so fast. She didn’t say anything looked abnormal but I’m confused. She didn’t say explicitly that it wasn’t measuring correctly. 6w 4days.

u/Funny_Engineering580 — 17 days ago

Just wondering if any of you are experiencing this? I read it was normal but I’m always freaked out due to previous losses. My boobs hurt when I first wake up and then in the afternoon they deflate a little and stop hurting as badly. I push on the sides near my armpits to make sure they still hurt a little bit. Then the pain starts up again at night.

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u/Funny_Engineering580 — 26 days ago