2nd time around and 2nd post
It will be a week tomorrow from when I found out my now exboyfriend was being unfaithful to me. So to give a little backstory: Both of us same age and we have been togheter for 2 years now, and our relationship could be described as a long distance relationship even though we lived in the same city. My ex was working a lot and made a bunch of excuses for not being able to meet up more than once a week. We got togheter in spring of 2024 had our first breakup I nov 2024, got back togheter a month later and I was to weak and inlove with him to let go of him. Ever since we got back togheter his life has been tough and I've been doing everything you can think of in order to help him out and support him though his though times including giving him some financial assistance. Our relationship hasn't been the worst but there has been things we were working on but wasn't a total dealbreaker.
But when my friend showed me the fb page "are we dating the same guy" and I understood they were talking about my ex, my whole world fell apart. I called him over and he confessed to only talking to a girl for 2-3 weeks but that's it. And that happened in march...He has no credibility in my opinion so I didn't know what to believe. On the fb page there was 20 comments talking about my ex being a love bomber, gaslighter, manipulator, sick, scammer and just lying about everything. I broke up with him a few days later when the initial chock wore off. He told me that he had planned to give me ring even though he has been hiding all this. Which I think is just immoral
It's been a few days and he has deleted off everything and acting like a victim. I just find it strange since he was the one who cheated on me and got caught and served papers to pay me back. Last time he broke up with me he actually kept tabs on me and went to my former employer to get information about what I was doing. And he found out that I had resigned from my previous jobb which I now realize was the perfect opportunity for him to get me back under his spell. I might be paranoid but since I embarrassed him by serving him and respectfully breaking up with him and now him acting like a victim I have bad feeling. My friend who also was the one who showed me the post told me to watch out because he was doing everything in his power not to lash out on my other lawyer who helped me serve him. It was just eerie. This is a man who has lost everything and is not doing well at all.
Should there be a general concern for my safety, relating back to him keeping tabs on me from our previous breakup?