I (27M) am concerned my partner 26F feels the need to hide information from me. Am I approaching this proper?
I’ve been dating my gf for 7 months and 2 months ago I mentioned I wanted to follow her twitter account(which I’ve been aware of but never asked). She has a private account she said is for venting & blurting out anything. I know this account isn’t being used maliciously or has any content on it that would be considered cheating but When I brought it up like “follow me on twitter” she said she didn’t want to talk about it and that there’s vulnerable posts about past relationships she didn’t want me to see. I was taken back because we’ve done much more vulnerable things together with talks about marriage and kids and interconnected topics. We are by no means a surface level couple. The immediate defense made me 2nd guess myself that there actually was something going on because after all we’ve done with eachother it seems like an odd boundary to set. It took a few more revisits on the topic later on before she said she understood how it looks and tried to reassure me. She told me her friend has a private that her boyfriend can’t follow either which I know isn’t true because no man or woman would be in a relationship where they feel shut out from their partners social media. Her account has 100 followers btw. This pulled me from super close loving best relationship I’ve had to worried anxious and back to what felt like a surface level understanding of eachother. This made me question the depth of our relationship. Why would she lie about her friends private not being followed by their bf. I know for a fact, woman or man, no one would encounter this and simply have no problem with it especially after talking so serious about our future. I feel I should give her time to up although I only asked because we’ve done way too much for me not to.