I [21M] and my girlfriend [20F] are at a disconnect because of my “wandering eyes” how can i fix this?
Me [21M] and my girlfriend [20F] have been together about 10 months, and recently have gotten into an argument about me having wandering eyes . She says i look at other girls asses when i’m with her or other girls in general and that this has happened multiple times and she didn’t say anything until now. She says she’s upset because she doesn’t want to be with a lustful guy and that she feels disrespected, and that even though we talked and this behavior changed she doesn’t know if she can ever get over this because in the back of her head she’s always gonna think that if i can do it while she’s there, there could be other things that i’m doing when she’s not there, and that I shouldn’t have even looked in the first place. Now she brought up 1 example of me looking at a girl that was in front of me getting out the hot tub and she was correct about it, but to me i wasn’t thinking about it in a lustful way or in a way that I was checking her out consciously, It was a quick glance. I honestly don’t know what to do because i never consciously noticed this behavior. I tried to explain that I always look around at my surroundings, but she was like you never have done this to a guy and that i’m checking people out. I’ve done my best to reassure her and try to help her understand that she’s special to me and that i don’t want anyone else, but she is so insistent on asking me why and to be honest i don’t even have an answer. Im at a point where i don’t even know what the next step is.
TLDR: girlfriend [20F] is mad because she thinks I [21M] Have wandering eyes and it makes me lustful. I have tried to reassure her and dont know what i should do next.