disclosed CSA to my parents and being blamed/questioned- need advice
my brother abused me when i was a child. i was maybe 5-6 years old and he is 5 years older than me. i disclosed the abuse to my mom in private a few weeks ago. i knew she would blame me, question my memory, invalidate my experience, etc. which she did. she normalized it saying “it’s a part of development.” now, my brother is getting engaged. my mom wants me to go to the engagement and bring my children. i said no. she told me im tearing our family apart, she said its a false memory due to past drug use, and that i have no right to keep my less than 2 year old daughter away from her uncle. all day today i have been blamed, gaslit, and told that this is a false memory that ive created and magically remembered during my college years due to drug use. my mom asked why i didnt disclose it sooner (by her response im sure you can assume why). all of this to say - she’s telling me to confront my brother. he’s about to get engaged. wtf do i do? and why is it on the survivor to even do ANYTHING especially confronting their abuser? my parents are not speaking to me and my mom literally told me she is angry with me. i’m 27 yo and live at their house with my children.