Title. Looking to pursue a new hobby, so I thought: Why not learning a martial art. I decided the two above. I’m a complete novice if that wasn’t obvious enough, so I’m asking anyone if they have any good recommendations for people that take in new learners.
So I’ve had HF for a little over a month now. Had my depression phase for a few days since it started but I’m fully committed(obsessive even) to heal myself back to what I was, possibly even stronger than before. For context, I believe I have a mild case of hard flaccid, compared to the many people of this sub. It also helps that I’m 23 and physically active. I can still get erections(like 75-80% strength)with enough mental or physical stimulation, no pain at all but do get the rare twitch in my perineum. Other than that, it’s mostly urination issues. And since there is no damage in my penis, testicles or anywhere in my body, I’m 99% certain it’s not something crazy like Pudendal Neuralgia or Penile Fibrosis. Essentially, it’s most likely a hypertonic pelvic floor.
Getting to the point, I went to a physical therapist who specializes in sexual dysfunction caused by Hypertonic PF, more especially HF. They have seen many men in their office with this condition and has successfully cured them(she showed me visuals too, so she’s not bullshiting). They were nice and asked me a ton of questions before doing her exam of me. My posture, my muscle strength and any imbalance, and of course an external and internal exam of my pelvic floor with other things. I’ll break down her findings and her words here:
My posture: She said it was perfect. No pelvic tilt, no hunchback etc. I walked in a perfect line with no sway or anything.
Range of motion: She asked me to twist my body around to see if there was any muscle tightnesses that was compressing my pelvic floor(i.e lower back or hamstrings). She found zero. Good so far.
Muscle Imbalances: This is where she had finally found something(s). She tested to see if there was weakness in my body, similar to the range of motion test prior. For the most part, everything was strong and functional. But to my shock, she found that I had very weak glutes, specifically a weak glute medius. These are the muscles that support the hip flexors and the pelvic floor. I am a marathon runner who does HIIT treadmill cardio 6x times a week for the last 5 years. She believes that the excessive running caused my glute med to weaken over time. She also found that I had a tight core and found several tight spots in my abdomen. I also do alot of core strengthening workouts, so she believes thats what’s caused the core tightness. These two things being out of synchronicity caused my PF to become compressed, even when I didn’t and couldn’t feel it, but it was happening. Orgasming practically broke the camels back.
External examination: Like most people in this sub, we got HF from too much orgasming without break. While I do it 2, maybe three times a day, it was adding up with my other factors. Doing a her outer exam, she felt tension in my IC and BS muscle via multiple trigger points.
Internal examination: Just like the other exam, she went up my poop shoot and confirmed the same thing. She felt tension in my IC and BS muscle and found tension in the muscle near my bladder, causing the urinary issues via trigger points.
We eventually finished the exam and spent the last 20 minutes breaking down everything while also teaching me to self massage externally. She also told me to starting strength training on my glute med with resistance bands and doing core stretching to release the tension in my abdomen, also strengthening it doing planks and the like, nothing curling my abs. The weirdest thing about this was the last thing she said, and that was to masturbate before I go see her again. Just once to clarify, but still. I’m not gonna lie, I’m kinda scared to do it, just because I don’t want to do anything that might aggravate it, but she also told me that the penis is a muscle. And like any muscle, if you don’t use it, you will lose it. I’ve got a week, so I’ll definitely ponder on it.
Anyways, the point of this post is not to flex or just say shit. I’m not saying PT is the end all cure all, especially since a minor amount of cases here are caused by freak accidents or nerve damage that even PT might not help with, but I’d highly recommend giving it a shot anyway. It could be the thing you need to get over the hump and be free from this curse. If anyone wants to ask me anything or just wants to vent, I’d be more than happy to just talk.