How do I tell my husband I need more support?
I 23F am married to my husband 24M for 3 years. I’ve been going through this legal battle against my father for almost 5 years now. I’ve been trying to get him to go to prison for what he did, yes it is truly that bad. So, you’d think that after all this time, that I’d be so ecstatic that he is about to go to prison. Except I’m a blur of emotions. I mean that’s my dad. My whole family depends on him. They still do. I know it’s not my fault for any of this that’s going to happen, but obviously I’m going through it. Everyone else can see that, except my husband. And yeah I can see some ways that he is giving space. But not really. I feel like I’m imagining him being there. He doesn’t ask how I’m doing unless I ask him first. He knows I’m depressed, I don’t hide it. I’m not staying in bed forever like I’d like to, but I’m definitely not myself. I’ve made leaps and bounds to try to be a better wife and to see his perspective. And I know he will never truly understand what I’m going through. But he isn’t even trying. It’s been a week since I got the news and he just barely asked how I’m doing last night. And it wasn’t because he was unprompted too. I wasn’t getting out of bed and couldn’t talk and clearly distressed. I’m scared to open up to my husband without him asking in fear of being labeled again as too emotional/ too much. Again he won’t understand what I’m going through, I have to give him that grace. But this SUCKS. I do have an individual therapist and we just started couples therapy. (As in literally one session) My therapist is very kind and supportive and currently
feels like my only support. Any advice?
tl;dr I’m going through a rough time and my husband doesn’t notice.