AIO to my dad inviting my half brother to my wedding, even though I never sent him an invite?
This is a bit of complicated and long story, and I have a bit of back story to go with it.
Backstory- My dad has had 3 wives. With wife #1 he had two kids. A son(Jeremy) and daughter(Not relevant so she doesnt need a name lol) After his marriage failed he married my mom and had my sister(Ruth) and I. Then my mom divorced my dad (He couldn't keep it in his pants) and moved onto his current wife. His son Jeremy has always been a drug addict. He's had two different kids with two different baby mommas who eventually got sick of his habits and left him to raise the kids on their own.
The second baby momma, had a girl, and somehow after baby momma #2 left Jeremy (due to his habits) my dad convinced Jeremy that wasn't his kid because it was a girl. My dad and Jeremy collectively never invited this child to family gatherings and vetoed her out of the family, despite baby momma #1 and the first kid always at family gatherings.
Now Ruth and I adored this little girl. I KNOW she is part of this family, because when she was little she looked like my carbon copy. (Its just the family genes we got I guess) Me and Ruth would go to her birthdays, my sister even baby sat this girl for a while, while mom was trying to go to school and better her life for her kids. Somehow, word got out that Ruth and I still "talk" to this little girl and baby momma and Jeremy has told Ruth to her face that he "disowned" me and Ruth because "Thats not our family"
Whatever, I barely talk to Jeremy anyways, it's not a loss on my part. My dad doesn't mention anything to us, if he does know he doesn't say anything to our faces.(Or at least mine, idk about Ruth)
Sometimes family events are tense with Jeremy around, but my dad is getting older so he wants all of his kids there so he doesn't get involved in any drama anymore and I think it pisses Jeremy off when we are there, because he never stays very long at events.
SO: Keep in mind, as far as I know, Jeremy has disowned me. He wants nothing to do with me or my sister because we talked to his daughter.
Onto the meat of the story: My wedding was last April. I got married to my amazing husband and he's my rock and I love him very much.
Invites kind of went out last minute (damn mailing problem) so there was a lot of chaos going on with invites. I didn't think much of it. I didn't invite Jeremy, but I did invite my dad. I also did not invite Jeremy's daughter because mom is having her go through a lot of therapy after what Jeremy did to her mentally (Just not be a father figure to her and stepping in and out of her life a lot after the fight of the girl not being his)
On the day of my wedding, we had a couple of no shows because of the invite fiasco, and other things that happened, but we basically had extra food and seats.
After the tearful ceremony finished up, and we sat down at the couples table, I kind of take a look around at the guests and notice Jeremy. I'm a little confused and asked Ruth (Who helped me plan my wedding) if she ended up sending him an invite since we had extras.
She looked at me and shook her head, saying it must have been dad.
I was a little frustrated with that thought, but I said nothing and tried to keep my thoughts about my day and husband. At one point, Jeremy did come up (As he brought his son) and congratulated me and my husband and talked to my mom and papaw for a bit before he left. I didn't really think about it till yesterday when I was at my moms and she asked if I invited him
I told her no and she straight up told me my dad must have, because no one else did.
Now I am at a bit of a crossroads here. Do I just ignore what my dad did? Do I bring it up to him? My dad (I fear) is not easy to talk to, and I feel if I try to bring it up it will turn into an argument with him and he's going to pout or blame it on me for "Not inviting him in the first place"
I know Jeremy didn't cause a scene, or cause drama, I just feel a little disrespected that he came despite me not giving him an invite. (Plus invites did NOT have a plus one on them)
Am I overreacting that my dad invited my half brother to the wedding even though he himself did not receive an invite?