u/GainProfessional2619

Hello everyone! My (22f) best friend (21f) recently found out she was pregnant(2 months). As soon as she found out she started having all the symptoms, even though she didn’t have them before knowing. Saying she was nauseous so we couldn’t go certain places, complaining about walking etc. this isn’t the problem however. For a little backstory, she has been on and off with this one guy for years. He is extremely physically abusive, as well as mentally towards her. They argue, they cheat, the breakup, and repeat constantly. I am ALWAYS the friend who is there for her when this happens. Every. Single. Time. When she found out she way pregnant and told him, he got drunk and told her to get rid of it( she wanted to keep it). She cries to me about it and we went out shopping. She told me that she doesn’t even know if he is the dad, that he was a loser and she was gonna raise the baby on her own, and that she was giving him until the 1st appointment to show up. Miraculously(🙄)he shows up to it. All of the sudden she’s posting about him. Saying my man my man. Fast forward, we had plans for a week to go swimming. I messaged her the day before and asked her what time, she told me she can’t come because she’s having dinner with her baby daddy. I was pretty upset about this but got over it. Last weekend out went out to the bar with one of our mutual friends and a group of people, she asked me if we would meet up with her at some place she wanted to eat when she got off work. I told her probably not because we were with a group, but that she was welcome to meet up with me. She got very upset and said it was because she was pregnant, etc. fast forward to today. We had made plans a few days ago to hangout tomorrow and get food. She calls me at 10pm and tells me her and said mutual friend are going to get food and drinks(not her obv) and asked if I would go. I said I couldn’t and she was kinda upset. I told her that we were hanging out tomorrow and she goes “I can’t”. I was pissed. I asked her why and she said “I’m hanging out with *baby daddy”. She said I was ditching her again and I told her this is literally twice that we’ve been supposed to hangout and she bailed on me for him. I explained that I’m trying to be a good friend and put in effort to hangout like we used to despite her being pregnant. She told me that she can only see the baby daddy on her days off so she dedicates that time to him. I asked her why she would tell me she wanted to hangout if she knew she was gonna be with him, and she said “well at first he said he didn’t wanna hangout”. I’m so upset. Everyone talks about people being bad friends when your pregnant, but what about the pregnant person being the bad friend. I feel like she only wants to hangout when it’s convenient for her. This Guy had never done her any good and she’s choosing him time and time again, vs the one stable person in her life. She even told me she wants me to be the gender keeper and be in the delivery room. I feel like I shouldn’t have to deal with this just because she’s pregnant but don’t want to be that friend that leaves when u get pregnant. Am I overreacting? What would you do?
Side note: she is not telling him he may not be the father. She also says she just thinks of him as a baby daddy now, not her man or anything.