Please help I’m 21 books into this year and not one has felt 5 stars. I’m reading a variety of genres authors eras and it just isn’t hitting. I read almost everything sci-fi, thrillers, romance, fiction, and non-fic. A few of last years 5 stars for me were Parable of the Sower, Rage Becomes Her, Empire of Pain, Chain Gang All Stars, Lost & Lassoed, Atmosphere etc
Let me hear your recs!! I’m down for anything
I recently finished reading Jesus and John Wayne by Kristin Kobes Du Mez and learned a lot including complementarianism vs egalitarianism! I had always seen these philosophies and systems at play but never knew what they were called.
Complementarianism is a theological view in some denominations of Christianity, Rabbinic Judaism, and Islam,that men and women have different but complementary roles and responsibilities in marriage, family, and religious life
Its contrasting perspective is Christian egalitarianism, which holds that positions of authority and responsibility in marriage and religion should be equally available to both females and males.
As an exmo married woman one of my core beliefs/values has been egalitarianism. I’m in a “non traditional” marriage which I’m so happy and fulfilled with. I’ve been married 2 years, no kids, we both work full time. I have an advanced degree and am salaried and the breadwinner. My husband works hourly and didn’t attend college. He does the majority of the domestic labor but we divvy things up and both contribute. My partner cooks 95% of the time. He hopes to work less or from home when we have kids. I fucking love my partner and being married. It’s been extremely low drama and we work so well in what we have established and continue to grow. We have a great thing going but it’s wildly different from what I was taught growing up.
This has frankly caused mild tension with my parents especially father. My parents have a pretty “traditional” gender role complementarianism marriage, which I now understand is a completely opposite system. My dad is exmo and my mom is very active but my father is the provider and my mom stays home. My dad was “very stressed” for me during my engagement when my partner still hadn’t committed to a “career to provide for me” (ignoring the fact he works full time and adds so much value in every facet of my life). He really could not conceive that I want something different for my life. I want to work and use my brain. I worked my ass off in grad school to have my career not to stay home with kids forever.
What a blessing it is to be free of religion and have the space to choose what my marriage looks like according my own values. I wish more Mormon women knew they have choices. Successful fulfilling partnerships don’t just look one single way.