Help with ancestry/identity
I was born and raised in Wales, UK 🏴 my father hails from a village called Ghourghushti in Attock, Pakistan. My mother was also born in Wales but her parents came from the same village. I would love to know more about my heritage/ancestry, and a few general questions. So far I have a very limited understanding, and have found it hard to source information but what I do know is that the tribe I belong to is the Malak tribe (also known as Dilawar khel). I understand that this makes me Pashtun, and that my ancestors came from somewhere in Afghanistan. The thing is, growing up I thought Pakistanis and Afghans were as close as could be, but now I have come to an understanding that they despise each other. Forgive my ignorance, but why is this? I only know about some silly border disputes. Even my own father talks down on Afghans in Pakistan, and said it was good that the Pakistani government was kicking them out, which shocked me to hear as i thought he may have forgotten his roots. On a lot of social media posts I see Afghans saying that only Afghans can be Pashtun, so does that make me an Afghan? I am not particularly tied to any country or identity so it would not bother me, as long as I can learn and understand! My late grandfather said that we have a giant book of ancestry somewhere in Afghanistan and it pains me to think that I might never get to see it. Some physical descriptors of me and my family: I am quite tall, 6’5 in stature. I have olive skin and green eyes. My father also has green eyes, as does his father. My grandma’s eyes are grey/blue, they all have olive toned skin.
I apologise if this post was a little messy, I have a lot of questions and often wonder about my ancestry, and I would appreciate any help!
TL;DR
ancestry/origin of Dilawar khel/malak tribe (any info appreciated)
What type of Pashtun am I?
Why do Pakistanis and Afghans hate each other
Where can I learn Pashto?