u/GasRepulsive5191

I guess it was bound to happen sooner or later, because although they may be smart enough to pull all of these sociopathic,narcissistic students, they are in fact, a complete f*cking idiot. They have me 9 year old their old phone, but didn’t sign out of their messaging account. When I was putting their phone away I saw a notification pop up, and that’s when the floodgates open.
Where do I go from here? They’ve succeeded in isolating me from practically everyone I know, and financially I can’t leave just yet. We have a house, children, pets…my mind is spinning. I just want them to leave.
Also, they made this grand apology a few weeks ago, and have been coercing me to be intimate with them. I’m now concerned about stds. What can I do? Where should I go?
As if the universe wanted to laugh more, it’s our 20th anniversary today.

After a month of the silent treatment, I guess biology got the better of them (maybe, who knows), and they apologized to me. Said part of the reason they blew up at me was because I (funny it’s a me problem) don’t initiate or want sex from them. It was then I realized how clueless they are, especially when I started to explain that making comments that I’m a fat slob aren’t going to make me want sex, in addition to atrocious hygiene habits.

However, now, all of a sudden, they want *it* multiple times a day….I definitely don’t, but sexual abuse/coercion/retaliation is part of their behaviors.

They also want another child, which I’m not open to at this time, but they’ve been putting pressure on me.

Is it just self-serving behavior, exhibiting control, both? Neither?