I’m 3 years sober
Im just looking for a place to vent to people who would understand, and maybe even receive some advice. Im 3 years sober. I met my boyfriend through aa. He had been sober longer than me, and from the surface he had it all together. Fast forward, I get pregnant. We were living in sober living at the time so we make the decision to move home to my parents house while we save up and figure out our next steps. Well we never got the chance to do that. He relapsed before moving out of the sober house (which I wasn’t aware about) and after lots of lying, manipulation, and gaslighting he finally when to rehab November of last year. All he did was go to a week long detox, entertained a suboxone clinic for about a month, and convinced us all that he was okay. Well news flash, he was not. Everything came crumbling down on Mother’s Day, when I received nothing, and was gaslighted into believing that it’s my fault, and even more so the following day, when I discovered him taking money from me. He halfway admitted to relapsing, but thinks I’m the one giving up on our family and just kicking him to the curb for no reason. And there are no plans for him taking himself to treatment. As a recovering addict, it’s crazy being on the other end of this. I can empathize with his struggles, but I can’t justify the constant gaslighting and manipulation. I made it very clear multiple times that he can be honest with me and we can fight this together. There’s not much else I can do.