No red pill talk, or that fake confidence bs. Just the stuff I picked up after 10 years in the service and sales industry

For context: Everything here is taken from the book that I wrote but here’s everything summarised for free.

1 You do not need approval from NOBODY

People feel it when you're seeking validation. It makes you less attractive, not more. Nobody wants the job of making you feel okay about yourself.

2 Read the room before ANYTHING

+ If they are: Tight shoulders, avoiding eye contact.
+ Do this: go soft, slow down, give space.

+ If they are: Relaxed, taking up space
+ Do This: Match their energy, be direct. Readjust before you open your mouth.

3 It’s about them, NOT you

Your job isn't to be interesting. It's to be interested. Every time you feel the urge to talk about yourself, ask about them instead. Watch how fast people warm up.

You will have your time to talk about yourself, wait for the cues.

4 Make them feel seen AND heard

Skip "how are you."

Actually look at them.

Try: "You don't look too hot / you alright?" OR "You look like something good just happened.”

People remember whoever noticed.

5 Know When To Walk Away

Short answers, checked their phone, body turning away, that's not a signal to push harder. Exit clean. Leaving at the right moment makes you more memorable than staying too long.

You can push but you need to be smart about it.

6 Give before you ever ask for anything

The most magnetic people aren't the most talented. They're the ones who made the most people feel good about knowing them. Build credit. Status finds you.

Understand this: People will like you and trust you easier if they know something personal about you. It’s just a transfer of trust. You give them something, they’ll give you something.

If you require more help, the book I wrote is in my link tree.
But if you have specific questions, ask away. I read everything.

If you’re good at something, technically. Read this.

I’ve been scrolling for a while and a lot of people have been asking for advice on how to approach clients and questions along those lines. So here’s what actually worked for me.

I sell 1-1 communication coaching. (Yes, very sexy I know.) No systems, no frameworks. Just knew how to talk.

All of that experience of being rejected and belittled, being told no, compiled into 1 business model.

At first no one bought, obviously. I was so obsessed with making it look attractive, what offers fit best, etc. Got no luck with that. My pitches were shit. Imagine being so hung up with your product to the point you fumble on YOUR OWN pitch about YOUR OWN product.

One day I said fuck it, I’mma just do me. Forget the script, forget the product. I know what I want to sell, and the vision and mission I have for my clients. That’s it. All those years of neglecting the only skill that I had and was intending to sell to people, I put it to use.

I just started talking to my prospects like I already got them in my back pocket. In a 30min sales call, just talked about the product for 1 - 5 minutes. The rest of the time was me getting to know them. Asking them questions. Knowing and acting like I belong there in the first place. I’m already on the call with them, that means they need me as well.

Most founders aren’t taught to sell, communicate or have decent social skills. They are all developers, creators, inventors. People who are technically skilled.

If you’re still reading that means I have proved my point. I managed to capture your minds. You NOW know where you are lacking. Your product isn’t the issue. You created it, you wouldn’t create a shit product, and YOU KNOW IT.

So stop hyper fixating on your product and start sharpening your people skills and start acting like you belong.

Now here’s the actual advice.

- Act like you belong on that call.
- Stop over explaining your product, and start HIGHLIGHTING the dream goal for that client.
- Ask more questions ABOUT THEM and things RELATED TO THEM, not yourself.
- Understand that they’re not buying YOUR PRODUCT, they’re buying YOU.
- Give more first, then ask for compensation later. (Give the offer for free, if shit hits the fan)
- Match their energy. Stop comparing sizes and just imagine yourself in their shoes. Comfort and validate their emotions.
- Learn people and social skills QUICK.