r/communicationskills

Last 5/6 days around i noticed she is looking at me but i ignored i thought she just looking nothing else but now 2 days to u realise she interested so what to do can someone explain?

There’s a guy in my class I really like, and I’d love to get closer to him. However, he’s very quiet and doesn't speak to you unless you speak first. I don't think it's shyness; it seems more like he just isn't interested in starting conversations or can't be bothered to do so. That said, if *you* start the conversation and ask questions, he responds well and might even ask you something back. Please give me some advice on how to get closer to him without annoying him or anything like that. (By the way, he’s very intelligent, especially when it comes to film and philosophy.)

I am an foreigner in US. My work involves collaborating with state fish-wildlife-conservation agencies and hunters across the country. For some reason, I feel intimidated and I absolutely need to overcome that feeling. I sometimes tend to freeze when they ask me questions and my mentor has to pitch in for me. I am seeking if anyone has faced this and how you overcome it.

I am 19 and I have no interaction with womens I grew up in Male driven environment and friends and I am in college, I don't interact with Womens(almost zero) and I want to interact but my shyness take over and I have women anxiety also, I want to interact but the fear takes all over

Hi good people,

I am an ambitious technology professional looking to increase my impact and network and also perform a quantum leap in my personal development journey (what's more quantum than going from introvert and shy to speaking in conferences).

I have done speeches via Zoom a lot of times (I have a contract with a university) and people praise me for the engagement I can bring to the speeches. Apart from some brown bags between friends, family or teammates at work I have never spoken in a physical public setting with strangers.

So what is more normal than joining a Toastmaster club? First meeting, they bring me up for an impromptu speech and they ask me to talk about myself. I am pretty good at explaining things about my profession or areas I am passionate about. But speaking about myself? Meh...

Impromptu speeches are challenging themselves, let alone how my difficulty speaking about myself. So I blacked-out and even though I persisted for the whole minute and didnt bail, it was the worst speech I could give. I rewind it in my mind and it was a compilation of absolute nonsense, to the degree I believe I am an inside joke for the "old gang" of the club.

I now feel like, even doing an icebreaker presentation in Toastmasters, is a giant task and I have not even opened my learning path. Let alone speaking in the conferences I am targeting. Speaking on camera though? Not a problem baby, I just delivered one today.

Any help, tips, hints, baby-talking or sincere yelling etc is appreciated. :)

P.S: I have recently started speaking to my phone camera and watching myself. I am NOT freaking out, looks pretty normal. I dont know if it says something or if it is irrelevant

For the past couple of days, I’ve been talking to a guy over the phone. And every time I ask him something, he just says “MEOW.” What does that mean?

Heyy there!!! Im 18 y old posting because I want to improve my communication skills and don't know how so I want friends who would help me learn communication skills because I m so exhausted like whenever I make friends online or talk to anybody irl I mostly dk what to say.

I had been a socially anxious person. This had bothered me lot. So I University one month ago and I finally decided to step up and work on it. I started approaching people on daily basis. Now I'm approaching random peoples, do small talks with them and I'm more confident than before.

But the only issue I'm facing is connecting with them. I feel like I'm talking and exchanging words but there's no connection establishment and the conversation only limited to the small talk.

How can I connect with peoples more deeply??

Hi.. I see enough stress on conversation opennings. I don't know why will I know what to talk with you Stranger. I have taken a long thought before sending a Hi. When you say Hi to me. I will go back to my kindergarden and send you a How are you text. When you mention you are good and ask about me I will answer I am good too..

Now what?

I will feel pressured into speaking next.

So I want you to just ask me facts..

My name

Place

Origins

What do I do..

Things a introduction form will capture

Exvhage these and by the time we do.. We will be in a conversation if you and I use your language and willingness to share...

Simple?

Yes.. Ok.. Let's start

I talk a lot. I know you do too when you are feeling like.. And with people... So just lets get started..

Worry not about asking my salary.. Family finances..

My degrees.. My intent to earn ahead or want to take it slow... My caste.. My desire for marriage or relationship...

I will feel free too...

There is nothing you can ask about me which will offend me or feel small about...

Just talk!!

It feels good..

Yes.. Share few pictures and maybe just do that without asking..

Your professional identity earns you money..

Your personal identity earns you the reason to spend it on

:)

Was studying in the library when i noticed these two people talking non stop for what seemed like the entire time i was there (3-4 hours). i struggle to hold conversations and most of the time ends in awkward silences. i dont know what to focus on when the other person is telling me something, my brain kind of just gets foggy and i dont know how to respond. its as if im constantly trying to come up with the "perfect" response but it doesnt even exist. how to be spontaneous in conversations? do you need to have a lot of experiences to conversate because ill be honest ive been pretty isolated for a while and stay in my bedroom all day playing video games thus feel i dont have anything interesting to contribute on my part.

Need Advice 😭

So basically, I’m a fresher in college, and on my very first day I noticed this girl in my class and instantly developed a crush on her. Then, on the second day, she changed sections. I was actually supposed to be in Section A too, but somehow I ended up in Section C, while she’s in A. 💀

Now we’re in completely different classes and I only really see her during breaks.

She’s genuinely smart, ridiculously cute, and honestly… her looks are insane. She has curly hair, she’s Marathi but was born in Gujarat and lives in Ahmedabad, and she comes to college in GIFT City. I know her name and a few basic things about her, but that’s pretty much it.

The problem is I have absolutely zero communication skills and I get nervous as hell when I think about approaching her. 😭

I obviously don’t want to be creepy or randomly dump my feelings on her. I just want to actually get to know her and see if there’s any mutual interest.

So Reddit, what would you do in my situation? How would you start a conversation naturally when you only see her during breaks? Should I approach her directly, try to become friends first, or just leave it alone?

And please give me actual practical advice because my social skills are currently fighting for their life. 😭

I don't know why introducing people is becoming less common now. I (31M) moved from the countryside almost 7 months ago because of work. I made a lot of friends and colleagues and got into new activities, which is great.

I've noticed that whenever I go to a gym or party where I'll go to a friend of mine, and then bump into another friend, they just start to chat and make no effort to introduce me even though I'm standing right in front of them. I just introduce myself, but it feels like I'm imposing on them and their conversation.

Meanwhile, when it comes to me introducing them, I make a real effort to introduce them to make them feel included.

I'm fine with just building connections with other people with similar interests and just socializing. I wonder why introducing other people is not common now, is it normalized now?

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I was reading a book where the author described how two people met and slowly got close, but then he summed it up in one line: “and now calling and video calling each other had become normal.”

It made me wonder, how do you actually reach that stage? How does a friendship go from texting sometimes to casually having long calls and video calls without it feeling weird or forced?

For those who have experienced this with a female friend, how did it happen for you? Did it just happen naturally over time?

My whole life is work, sleep, and family. I never go to reunions, trips with friends, or other social events. I am getting bored with the life I have right now. I want to do something social that isn't about family. I feel like I am isolating myself too much because I am so busy with work and my family.

Any friendships I had have slowly faded away as I am always busy and can't hang out with them. Is it too late for me now to make new friends and try to socialize?

I just wanted to ask for some advice.

How do you guys start a conversation with a woman you don’t know, especially in a normal everyday situation?

Honestly, I don’t feel very confident approaching random women. I often think about what I should say, whether I’ll make things awkward, or whether she’ll think I’m bothering her.

I’m not trying to randomly hit on every woman I see. I’d just like to become more comfortable talking to women naturally and respectfully.

For those who are good at starting conversations, how did you get comfortable with it? What do you usually say when approaching someone for the first time?

hi,so am an introvert and recently I joined uni and I have met some people that I talk to but sometimes I get texts where I think of an answer but my mouth doesn't know how to articulate it,I become speechless and I don't know how to reply and I end up leaving them on read and replying after finding answers and it takes days sometimes to reply what I was thinking,so they don't complain but I just want to know how you people do when you feel like this.