Worlds biggest chump seeking advice
A few years ago I moved to my girlfriend’s home city because she was having some health issues and wanted to be near her family, who were also having some issues. I helped both her and her family out, and during that time we got married and she got pregnant (planned, we both always wanted kids). I was with her for ten years in total.
When our daughter was 2, and her health issues had been resolved, she decided she didn’t love me anymore. Just like that. No counseling or talking or anything. Well, we tried to make things work for a week, but then I discovered she was into a coworker she had only known for a couple months and was still actively pursuing that while we were in counseling. I ended things when I found out.
The coworker didn’t work out, but she moved on to another guy and ten months after our separation she “respectfully” told me they were official. He also has a kid, and now my 3 year old (who I share custody of) tells me about the things they do as a family every time I have her. My ex wife also has friends who have kids and so my daughter is constantly doing fun stuff with other kids. Which is fine of course. I want her to be happy.
The only thing is, I’m a thousand miles from my family and my friends. My ex was my best friend and we had only really hung out together before the split. I don’t have any friends here or any kind of support network. I don’t know anyone else with kids. I try to do fun stuff with her but I just feel like it pales in comparison to the time she has with her mom.
Anyone have any advice on this? I try to do fun things with her, but I just feel like it’s so lackluster when it’s just the two of us… or maybe I’m overthinking it and she doesn’t care that it’s just me and her…