u/Gear-Outrageous

Or buy them gifts? Whilst still giving them the silent treatment and being cold and cruel? If so, why?

i (35f) am ashamed to admit that i engaged in back and forth via text last night. usually i’m good at ignoring and grey rock but i just couldn’t take it anymore.

Anyway, during our heated exchange, several times he (33m) mentioned i should go fuck another man. Or that i had a hundred sexual partners before i met him (not true)
or that i should find some men to text behind his back.

Does this sound like projection? I genuinely think he’s cheating. He never leaves the house except once a week he goes into the office and once a week he hits the gym with his friend.

I don’t actually care if he’s cheating, if anything it will make it easier for me to leave i think.

i have cried for a week straight since he told me he hates me. he is just cruel everyday. Says he has years of frustration towards me. I do everything in our home for us and the kids. He doesn’t leave the bedroom. I want out so bad but terrified

we’ve been together for 12 years. He’s never said that before. “I don’t love you, i actually hate you. I regret marrying you”

i don’t know why i feel so sad

my(35f) husband(34) just did a 9 day stint of silent treatment towards me and our kids (3 year old son and 11 month old daughter) because i refuse to do his disgusting, depraved kinks anymore.

He was back to “normal” for one day (yesterday) and now again today he’s been in a horrible mood. shouting at our son and grimacing. he keeps going back up to the bedroom. I went up to ask him what’s going on with dinner. I’ve been with the kids alone 99% of the day and he’s been in bed.
He said “i’m not interested” and then started to ignore me when i asked him questions.

I am usually very good at grey rock. I don’t usually let anything get to me anymore but something about him forcing us back into silent treatment hell really pissed me off.

I shouted that i’m sick of it and him and that he’s a loser and a psychopath.

I was seeing red. I still am. I am not an angry person so i feel really weird and out of it. I have a weird buzz and a headache now. Like I could just lose my mind on him and say everything and anything on my mind.

i want out of this relationship SO bad it hurts but I’m only two weeks back from maternity leave so I have no money.

I keep thinking “when i have 10k saved I can go” but it seems like it’ll be a year before that can happen.

I can’t bare to go to a shelter with my poor kids.

I don’t know what this post is about. it’s just rambling at this point but i just feel an intense rage i have never felt before right now. i hate him.

I have finally stood my ground about being forced to do his disgusting kinks. I will not be doing any of them. they are vile and disturbing. He has been in bed for 6 days now, ignoring me and our two small children. I’m just biding my time until I can leave. I used to beg and cry for him to talk to me but now i don’t give a fuck. I can’t stand him and can’t wait to be free.

what’s the longest you’ve had silent treatment from your narc?

if i don’t, i will be punished. i can’t leave. i keep telling him i don’t want to do it but i don’t have a choice. i want to kill myself but i can’t because of my two babies. my life is hell

we’ve been married 10 years this year and we have two very small kids.
It’s been very death by a thousand cuts and now i’m at the point where i hate him with every fiber of my being.
I don’t know what makes me stay. I guess the unknown. I am a foreigner in his country and have no one here but his small family and my kids. I live in a major city which is very expensive so i’m so scared of being poor and struggling with two children and no support. I don’t know if I can take being with him for much longer. i wish i could just bite the bullet. he’s horrible.

Anyone deal with something similar or is it special to my narc husband?

It takes me a long time to drink something. It may take me hours to finish a can of redbull.. or he can knock back 3 beers to my one cocktail. Every single day he pressures me over finishing my drink. Constantly. “drink your drink” “finish your drink” “hurry up and drink that”

why tf does it matter?

he is severely abusive so maybe this is a stupid thing to even harp on in the grand scheme of it all.. but damn just let me drink at my own pace? so weird.