Men are leaders and women should be followers as told by XYZ person
I matched with a guy from another state on Hinge last month, he became clingy and calling me 4 times a day which overwhelmed me. He gaslit me and made it seem as if I’m the one who’s too eager so I cut contact. Mind you he kept saying he’ll fly me out to see him from the first call which I found odd.
A month later he reaches out to me, confessing be stalks my likes and thinks about me from time to time. I was hesitant but decided to give it another shot. I wish I didn’t. He kept trying to exert dominance and power over me by saying he’ll cover all my expenses and that he wants me to fly to him over the weekend because he “really wants me lol”.
When I set firm boundaries regarding my culture and wanting an equal partnership, his mask completely slipped.
He told me "being submissive is a huuuuge plus" and lectured me on how a 50/50 relationship doesn't exist and that women need to be "followers."
I immediately told him we should unfollow each other, and his parting shot was to insult me by saying I have "unicorn expectations."
I blocked him, but I'm still processing the absolute audacity. Are equal partnership and basic boundary respect really out of this world?
The chat since I can’t post screenshots on here:
XYZ: Being submissive to the man is a huuuge plus
XYZ: American women are such headaches
Me: I'm not though
XYZ: I can see that too lol
XYZ: You’re still better than American women that’s fine
XYZ: I’m not expecting or asking crazy submission like some crazies
XYZ: The basics would be nice. Considering I’m a genuine provider
Me: I believe there should be balance there, both the man and the woman have duties they need to fulfill even if they're not similar
Me: But that doesn't make the man superior
XYZ: It’s not about a superior. 50/50 relationship does not exist in life
XYZ: Not in buisness, politics, life ect
XYZ: Their is the lead and follower
Me: I will never be a follower
Me: I don't like alpha male mindset at all
XYZ: That’s not what I’d call an alpha mindet
XYZ: Wish you well then finding that 50/50
Me: It's best we unfollow each other so that we don't reconnect
Me: Good luck in your life
XYZ: Same to you. But as sincere advice you may want to make adjustments as you have unicorn expectations
I blocked.
Thoughts?