Do I keep messaging even though he has subtly asked for no contact?
Me and my ex bf broke up 1 month and a half ago. It’s taken me a lot of time to process it and in the last week I’ve really missed him and want to get back together. HERES THE THING. He broke up with me, he wasn’t in a good place, he has full time school, work, and has racked up a bit of debt in speeding fines. When he broke up he made it clear I was the one for him and wanted to work things out in the future. I agreed and we kept contact for a good 2 weeks of us chatting and calling. All of a sudden after those two weeks he got super distant and I was the only one reaching out. I got super scared that I was doing something wrong and messaged if he needed any space. He said yes to needing space, which was also super confusing because he was the one who initially asked to stay in touch. Then after a week I broke no contact and said I was super confused and would like to meet in real life to have a proper conversation. He said yes, and then he canceled, and gave me hints that he didn’t really want to plan a new date to chat. So we didn’t talk for maybe 2 weeks. Now I messaged him drunk 2 days ago saying I didn’t understand if he was done completely with me and needed to know whether I should move on or not.
HERE IS WHERE IT GETS EVEN MORE CONFUSING.
Also context he is a huge people pleaser and will honestly kinda just say whatever he thinks domeone wants to hear.
He replied saying he was still processing everything and was sorry he has been a bit confusing.
And the whole conversation went a bit like
“R we done”
He said : “I think we should go our separate ways but you didn’t do anything I want u to I still obviously care about you I just don’t think I can keep contact with u with out it hurting us both”
I said : “so never talk again?”
And he said “no”
Then I said “so what does this mean we are done I don’t understand”
He said “Yeah if your meaning us having a relationship I can’t do that again”
and then he said “I’d like to be friends with you in the future”
Then I said “so we will never be together again”
He then said “I obviously will choose u my whole life at this time I can’t get back in a relationship but maybe next year if you’re open to it I would like to try”
and I said definitely.
And then I asked if he wanted to cut contact and he said i don’t have a time frame but yea.
What does this mean. It’s confusing because I feel like he doesn’t really want to stay connected and could potentially be saying this to not hurt me. The thing is is he was really in love with me and I was really in love with him. I want this to work out. But I think my need to reach out all the time is pushing him away. But I just can’t help but want to see and talk to him all the time. Help me make sense of this PLEASEEEEE. It’s like my 3rd post asking for advice.