AITA for cutting off my best friend after getting back together with my cheating ex?
I (27F) have been part of a close friend group of four for over 10 years. For privacy, I’ll call my friends Daisy, Helen, and Tina (all 27F).
I was also in a relationship with my boyfriend Kevin (27M) for over 9 years. Since we all went to school together, Kevin was also very close with my friend group and we used to hang out together all the time.
At the end of last year, I found out Kevin had been cheating on me and basically living a double life for almost 2 years. I was completely devastated. My friends supported me through everything, especially Daisy. She was by far the angriest about what Kevin did. She blocked him everywhere and was extremely protective of me while I was falling apart emotionally.
At one point, Daisy even told me that if I ever got back together with Kevin, she wouldn’t forgive me because she had seen how badly he hurt me.
After some time passed, though, I still couldn’t completely let go of Kevin. During that time, he apologized constantly, took responsibility, and genuinely seemed remorseful. Despite what he did, he had also been a very good partner to me for many years before all this happened. Eventually, I decided to give him another chance and we got back together.
When I told my friends, Helen and Tina were surprised but ultimately supportive because they said it was my decision. Daisy reacted very differently. She said she never wanted to see Kevin again and that if he was invited somewhere, she wouldn’t come. She also said that if we ever got married, she wouldn’t attend the wedding either (we had actually planned to get married before I discovered the cheating).
Honestly, that really hurt me and made me angry. I stopped talking to Daisy for over a month.
Then Helen and Tina started encouraging me to “talk things out” with Daisy and even suggested Kevin should apologize to her too. And I also found out that they made a group chat without me to convince Daisy to talk things out with me too. That made me even more upset and disappointed because they created a group chat without me to talk about me.
First of all, this was a relationship issue between me and Kevin. I don’t think Kevin owes Daisy an apology.
Second, I don’t understand why I’m expected to fix things when Daisy is the one who said hurtful things to me about my relationship.
And third, I feel like my friends became more focused on comforting Daisy than caring about my feelings, even though I was the one who got cheated on in the first place.
Eventually, I told Helen and Tina that I no longer wanted to stay friends with them either because I felt judged and unsupported by all of them. Daisy never responded and has stayed completely silent. Now I'm not answering any of them and left the group chat but I still feel pretty sad about our friendship.
AITA for cutting them off and being angry about how they reacted?