Semi-Newlywed But Mismatched Libidos?
I (29f) have been married to my husband 32m) for just over a year. Dated for three prior to marriage. I’ve always had a very high sex drive and…full disclosure, fairly early on made sure to be clear with my now husband that because of my HL, I never turn down sex. Early on in our dating, we had sex just about everywhere (within reason lol) but we certainly had it more often. I’m not expecting every day, but some point after our marriage, the sex slowed down. A lot. I will never seek sex outside of my relationship, it’s just not who I am. I have continued to try and initiate but I can never get a good read on when is a good time to or a bad time to? The last few months I’ve mostly just felt he has zero interest in it and we’ve been going two months or so at a time with minimal sexual contact. I guess I’m asking…is there a way to improve this? I’ve asked my partner directly and I get half answers. Would it help if I surprised him more? Could I be internalizing maybe an issue HE has into something about me?
Additional context is I’ve been very open about sex, we have the same likes and dislikes. I’m open to trying anything at least twice (I say twice because sometimes the first time goes haywire when you’re nervous about trying something new, gotta try one more time to be sure). I’ve personally never turned him down for sex. He says I give great head, etc. Any advice would be appreciated. Either on how to be better at initiating sex, a conversation to open up more about sex, things to spice up the bedroom to draw him back into it?