u/General-Yak7615

At 34 years old, I FINALLY found a doctor willing to remove my tubes, no husband signature required.

I was in the military and have arthritis in my back and knee. I’ve also had breast cancer and had a double mastectomy in my early 20s. I’m also BRAC+ and have a significant risk for ovarian cancer and passing that gene on to a child.

Even with ALL that, it’s been a nightmare. Don’t give up on finding a doctor, they’re out there. It’s astounding how hard it was for me to find a doctor. Has it been easy for anyone? (Man or woman). If so, what state or country are you in.

This may be a little lengthy, so I apologize in advance.

LOCATION: Utah, USA

My husband and I purchased a new home in December of 2025. It’s a great home, but the bathrooms all had a shower/tub combo. I’m a veteran and hurt my leg pretty severely in the service. Having had 4 major surgeries on it (and needing more) it’s pretty tough for me to step over into the tub.

So, we didn’t waste any time hiring a reputable contractor (active license, insurance, amazing reviews, etc.) and starting work on the shower in January of this year. If he would have told me he was using new subcontractors he hasn’t really worked with before, I would have turned the job from him down. So, the story begins.

For the beginning, the project was a nightmare. The tile subs were terrible and asked ME how to lay pieces of tile. I’ve laid tile before, but I’m not an expert. Grout lines were over grouting or missing grout, shower niche edging was all different lengths on every side, chipped tiles (filled in with grout to try to hide it), scratched tiles, busting through the wall attempting to put in said shower niche, etc. eventually, our contractor did have them fix small issues over time. 8 weeks later, it looks the same and told him I want someone else.

Someone else did come, said it was a huge risk to remove tiles (as they used red guard for water proofing and not schluter like we were told they would). Over time, the second sub fixed the issues and the shower looked presentable.

Now, when I turned the shower on there is significant pooling of water. It’s over an inch and doesn’t go down the drain. We brought this up to our contractor who, as this point, is losing money on the project from paying for all the fixes. He said he will not fix it, cannot afford to, and would offer a 5 year warranty and come back to fix it when it starts leaking.

I declined this and hired two separate home inspectors that both said do not use the shower, it’s a water hazard and that it needs to be totally re done.

I have these to our contractor, who said he would file a claim against the first subs insurance. 4 days later, we hear nothing. I check in and he tells me he has completed all work and we owe him the remaining balance. I’m of course, refusing, as I was told I don’t have a usable shower.

So, our options are to file with HIS insurance or small claims court. Has anyone ever had to do either or with a contractor? What was the process? What would you suggest we present to his insurance? (We have a timeline that is over 500% late, pictures, text and email communications where he promises the fixes, I made an interactive document for him that highlighted all the issues (which some still remain)). Our original final walkthrough was for February 13th, which never happened. We haven’t done a final walkthrough, and we. Any use the shower as intended, so in my mind the project was not fulfilled.