r/sterilization

I'm 23 and had my bisalp a bit over 24h ago. I have alot of gas pain but that is to be expected (mostly in my belly, ribs, shoulders, collarbone, tailbone/ass). It moves around especially when I change positions. Changing positions is so painful on my belly. My insicions hurt when I get up, sit down or lie down. Whenever I change positions it hurts alot at first but after a few minutes I get used to the position. Usually sitting and walking hurts the least so I've been doing that mostly. I can only lie on my back currently.

This insicion pain kinda burns and I feel this sore/wounded feeling inside my lower belly. Whenever I get up or down I have to hold my belly to make it more bearable. Once I stand a bit the pain gets much better though and I can walk around mostly pain free. I try to walk alot in my room. I'm just wondering if others experienced this aswell? Usually I hear recovery is so easy and some people don't even feel pain at all. Tbf I'm just at day 2 now. I'm just glad I'm on uni break and don't have to work lol. My surgeon called me yesterday and told me the pain is definitely normal. For pain I got prescribed ibuprofen 800 mg a day.

I am a f21 and I just did my consultation to get a bislap. Did anyone else have to have 2 consultation with 2 different doctors? Idk if I said the wrong things but my doctor wants me to have another consultation before she schedules my surgery. Btw my second one will be with a male doctor.

Are there stories of getting your tubes out after childbirth thats not a c-section? Based on my past births this will most likely just be another basic natural birth (if it was a csec it would probably make the decision easier lol). Obviously I can ask them to do it if it does end in c-section anyways but right now that timeline would make rhe most sense when id have the most family help around for the other kids and it likely wont be a c-section. The oldest is 10 and theyre all almsot perfectly 2 years apart cause we hit that stage around when baby turns 1 where we miss the baby stage and just want another.

My husband is also looking into getting fixed we've just not settled on which way makes more sense for our family? We have to do nfp/fam instead of birthcontrol because we've tried a bunch of different kinds and it screws too much with my mood/antidepressants (and im really hoping to get off those once hormones and everything regulates after baby is 6-12 months old) and since hes the only income its hard for him to take time off for anything. But we live in rural Canada so everything medical is free but appointments for things are hard to come by so getting fixed while im already in the hospital if they offer it makes sense?

I just read online that was an option and wanna settle in stone whether me and hubby wanna do anything permanent before we bring it up at my next appointment. The doctor was also really pushy during my last 2 pregnancies trying to convince me to get my tubes done if they had to do an emergency csec but they were like too pushy and it made it less of a conversation than it could've been, and with so many kids and I dont think my age would be an issue (im only 27). Just looking at all the options and any info or experiences would be helpful.

I have a consultation next month for a bilateral salpingectomy! I was curious if anyone could share their stories about how recovery was? Pending approval of course, I’m trying to figure out the timing for scheduling this fall/winter and what recovery will entail. Did you have to be in bed for a week? How long did you have to refrain from exercising and/or sex? I’m very physically active and my job is fully remote for context. Thanks all! :)

For those looking at bilateral salpingectomy as a childfree option, here’s my full timeline of getting info about the surgery to the post op as a 24 year old in a Red State! I had my bi salp done under 5 days ago:

• August 2025 went to my first drs appointment as an adult
• September 2025 went to a woman’s healthcare facility for my yearly checkup. they told me they would NOT approve any form or sterilization under 30
• October 2025 went to a consultation at a clinic that is 100% for womens rights and they told me at the first encounter they would do a bi salp, hysterectomy, etc if a patient wants. no questions asked. no age restrictions. (Advanced Gynecology of Tampa Bay, Dr Michael Stine)
• Novemeber 2025 ultrasound appointment. Dr agreed to sign off on the bi salp or schedule a biopsy for a hysterectomy at that appointment. I told my parents the plan, they disapproved (as I was under their insurance) so I held off.
• July 2026 I make the decision for myself, I want the bi salp and I schedule a phone consultation for schedule a pre-op.
• August 6 2026 pre op date. 15 minute appointment to go over medications, procedure, surgery, hospital etc
• August 14 2026 surgery day!!
• August 18 2026 (today) mostly back to normal. no pain.

IMO this was a VERY quick process. I could’ve gotten it done within a few months if I had kept with the plan in 2025. Luckily I didn’t have to repeat any of the process in 2026, but please check back to see my full recovery timeline!!

I'm scheduled for today and I'm so excited. Never had any surgery before therefore the anesthesia part makes me a bit nervous.
Who is also getting it done today or tomorrow? :)

I told my parents about getting sterilized before the procedure. Now I'm getting a new attempt to dissuade me everyday. They don't care that I won't have kids, just the idea of surgery is wild to them. They said it was sudden change that my hormones are gonna be wack. They blame other people for pressuring me into the surgery. They said I shouldn't let politicians push me into something early.

I'm bisexual, under 30, and single and I just wanted to ensure this part of the future I'm planning couldn't change. For me it's more about a fear of pregnancy instead of hating kids (Though babies are boring). I'd rather make my partner scream their head off if they cared about having biological kids. Plus, A lower cancer risk sounds great.

Is this really the best thing for me? Are the possible hormonal issues really that bad? I haven't heard much about it.

I never through there would be more push back from my family than my doctor.

pretty much just ranting but i’m just so mad at myself because i know it’s my fault that i waited until way way way too close to my scheduled date to call insurance. i keep getting such different numbers on how much this will cost, and the other day i found out that my provider’s billing/insurance department sent conflicting information on who was getting paid— whether the facility or the doctor. found out it may be out of network because of the address, not provider? was told by one rep it should cost under $200 as confirmed by my insurance app, surgical center insurance verification said it would cost $1k+ not counting anesthesia, another rep told me anesthesia copay is impossible to estimate since they can only know at the time of service how much i will need, called my gyno’s surgical scheduler and she told me that she thinks it’s gonna be billed to pay (idk the proper way to say this) the anesthesiologist, the dr., and the surgical center but at some point there was also talk of it being billed by the facility?? also my insurance isn’t counting CPT 58661 and ICD10 Z30.2 as preventative due to the diagnosis and i also frankly am having trouble talking on the phone due to my hearing,, i still don’t understand what medical management is either… oh man can i get a call back with some proper and clear info please… and also how to make it feasible to be able to take my tubes home lol i think it’d be cool but my doctor said she can’t promise it

Anyone have a doctor repeatedly cancel and reschedule your bilateral salpingectomy?

Between office visits and pre-op my doctor and her office have delayed, rescheduled, and canceled my surgery 3 times on me. This has taken over 6 months. ​First they lost my paperwork, so I had to go back in and resign consent forms. Then they changed my surgery time, so it was delayed. Then they pushed back my surgery time, another delay. Then they outright canceled it, so I rescheduled 3 times. Every time they do this last minute and it gets pushed back.

I'm trying to be understanding, but I'm also starting to worry someone on their team has a religious objection and isn't just telling me, so I can go to another doctor. It's wasting my time and money.

I understand emergencies and cancelations happen, but it's starting to feel personal. I keep having to redo paperwork, get more hibiclens, ask for PTO, coordinate a driver to and from the hospital, buy medical supplies and food for recovery and re-visit their office over and over at MY EXPENSE.

Has anyone else dealt with rescheduling, cancelations and clerical issues from their doctor? Just trying to understand if last minute cancelations are the norm, or if this could be something worse.

Thank you for reading, and I really hope no one is having a rough time like me. I just want the security of having my sterilization over and done with.

I have my bisalp next week. One thing that is written on my surgery information document is that I must have a shaven bikini zone. I haven't seen anyone here talking about having to shave.

What could it be for? I know they use a catheter and if necessary a uterine manipulator. Is that why? Or is it country dependent (eu) or because my surgeon is older (maybe standards were different a few years ago)?

I had shaven a week ago and have some short hair/stubble now. Would that still count as shaven? I heard you are not supposed to shave the days before an surgery due to infection risks

Got the bisalp when I was 19 almost two years ago (723 days and counting!) and I gotta say that the relief and safety I've felt in my body since then has been insurmountably precious.

I just know that, even if I ever do regret not having kids of my own (extremely unlikely scenario), I know I'll never regret the year of peace of mind this surgery has brought and the many more years of peace of mind it will bring me.

Any time I see the (very faint) scars on my body, it just reminds me that I took my life into my own hands as soon as I could and I couldn't be happier for it. <3

I was 21 when I had the Essure done (before they recalled it) in 2010. I’ve read horrible things about the Essure coils coming loose and painfully getting lodged elsewhere in the body, and also of course the primary issue, pregnancy despite having Essure in place, which I’ve read happens a lot. I’m considering a bisalp to be 100% sure I can’t get pregnant. Any advice on how to ask a doctor to go through with this? Is insurance likely to cover it? I have no children, I am childfree. Any other tips are appreciated. Thanks.

**BISALP!

I, 28F, had a bisalp and IUD insertion on the 6th. I have never had kids but knew I never wanted any for as long as I can remember. When talking to my OB about my bisalp and discussing looking for endometriosis while getting the bisalp done, they mentioned I could have an IUD put in to help reduce my period cramps and flow. In my head, that was the perfect scenario! Less cramps, lighter periods, and they can look for endo during the process. I never took the pill (mainly because I just hate taking daily pills and relying on them) so this is the first time on any type of BC. It’s now 11 days post op, and I am still bleeding and cramping. How normal is that? My typical periods were only 3-4 days MAX, with one day of severe cramps. So being on day 11, it’s different for me. I have my follow up with my OB next week, and I have messaged them letting them know I am still cramping and they said to just give it another week. I’m sure my body is just out of whack with the surgery itself, being on my period during the surgery, and then with this being the first BC I’ve been on. I am just wondering if anyone else had a similar situation.

I will be having my 3rd c-section in December and my OB discussed tube removal is we are done having children but I'd like some real life advice from those who are at least 1+ years out from having theirs removed.

I have a 5 (almost 6) year old and a 3.5 year old + new one coming in December. I've had 2 miscarriages back to back sept last year and Jan this year. I do feel I need to be done after this one and told myself if the Lord would bless us with 1 more healthy baby, that's all I wanted.

I know many will say make sure you're done and while I'd love any baby we were blessed with after this one I don't think I could handle another pregnancy + C-section + postpartum. My mental health has been HORRIBLE this time around and it's been so unfair to my family that I just don't think it would be fair to put them through that again and I also feel my body just doesn't have it in me for 4 c-sections.

I've heard mixed reviews on having tubes removed so please give me the good, bad and ugly. If you've had great experiences please speak up as I feel the negative experiences tend to be most spoken about.

Also would love to hear other options you all have found that does not include hormonal BC. I have not been on BC in 7 years. Thank you! :)

Hi everyone! I'm scheduled for my bilateral salpingectomy this coming Tuesday 8/18. I'm 31 and have a 4yr old daughter and my decision to be one and done has been made up since I was pregnant lol.

That being said, I'm excited but also feeling anxious.

I've read through this sub and I see that everyone's recovery has been different (as expected).

First thing making me anxious is my period started today (wasn't supposed to start until Wednesday or Thursday, after the procedure). Has anyone else started their period right before their procedure?

Next thing, how did you all feel within 24 hours and what was activity like for you? - I am only asking because I have an important meeting I'm scheduled to attend the following day (about 27 hours post op). It's in person but should be a short meeting. I wont take any opioid pain medication... I hate how it makes me feel and it all usually makes me vomit anyway. I also get to work from home so other than that, I'll be able to get lots of rest.

As far as pain tolerance, when I gave birth, I had an almost 4th degree tear and had to be stitched from the inside 🥴 I was very sore from that but still managed well.

I'll take all tips, tricks, and advice you all have.

I just had my bi salp but I’m very confused and almost doubtful.

I went in today at 9am. as my first surgery ever, I had NO idea what to expect, from the IV to anesthetics to the process itself. I was calm, but anxious. I had two tries on my IV and it was the most painful sting ever. I almost thought because of that needle, there would be no way Id get thru surgery & recovery.

I didn’t get rolled out to surgery until around noon so I was fighting to keep calm with both IV punctures for hours. I can hardly remember due to the anesthesia but the nurses were nice & genuine. I was already so tired from waiting in the bed, I didn’t know whether I fell asleep because of that or the anesthesia. Next thing I know I was opening my eyes (Or trying to)

But this is what shocked me the most… i have 0 pain. ZERO. I woke up on my side, hardly able to feel the incisions. The only sting I had was from the IV. No gas, no aching, no nothing. I was mostly scared that they didn’t do the procedure at all. From what I’ve heard from others experience, there was a bit of acute pain but I feel exactly the same as when I walked into the surgery center.

I cried because I was so confused. I trust the doctors but I feel like nothing happpened. Did I get my tubes removed? Is there a way to be sure?

I’ve asked for a bisalp/tubal ligation twice, but the doctor keeps telling me I’m “too young” and might regret it.
I already have kids, I don’t want any more, I don’t want anything that messes with my hormones, and I want something permanent. I’ve explained this multiple times, but she keeps suggesting other forms of contraception instead.

Has anyone been through something similar? How did you find a doctor who would actually take you seriously and discuss permanent sterilisation with you? Any advice would be appreciated.

edit: I know this is Reddit & some may have different opinions, but please no judgement guys I’m very very drained

Found a new true crime series that has 19 seasons! This will be good to keep me down since I am still recovering and now dealing with an infection 🙃

From my understanding, surgery could still be a possibility. I was pumped with 4 bags of iv antibiotics and I have oral antibiotics for home, since I never had a fever, and my white blood count was normal they determined it would be best for my surgeon to determine if I need a drainage surgery.

So I go to dr zimmers office tomorrow to find out my fate.

Sorry for the long title
So the nurse called me today to go over details. Like medications I should stop etc. And when we were going over the details, she mentioned my procedure which is the tubal removal and then she said an ovary removal. I was like whoa no no no! I said I’m not getting my ovaries removed that would kick me into menopause. I said we need to fix this immediately.

So she fixed it on her end and I called my doctor. I’m having the nurse call me back as soon as she gives him the message and put it in the system. I’m also gonna be really pushy about it on Monday. I’m not worried that they’ll make a mistake. I’m just worried that the notes were a mistake to begin with. I’m actually considering writing a permanent marker on my chest only to remove the tubes leave the ovaries lol. I’m just trying to find the humor in this and not freak out.

Has this happened to anyone else where they made a small mistake before surgery but you were able to fix it?

I think I'm in a bit of a different situation than a lot of the posts I read here so I thought it might be helpful to add my experience.

I'm a woman in my early 40s, and have been pregnant 6 times and gave birth to 5 babies over the last 10+ years. So unlike some of y'all, I got zero pushback from the Drs on wanting my tubes out lol.

The most interesting comment I got was from my GYN, at the consultation appt when I asked her if she generally recommended the surgery, who said a bit pointedly that it was a good option for women who couldn't do hormonal bc or had partners that *couldn't* get a vasectomy...

Which brings me to how I got here. Long story short, I got tired of waiting on my SO to actually get the vasectomy we previously agreed on (our youngest baby is almost 3), so I said fuck it. I'm done waiting, I'm done carrying the mental and emotional labor of this and being the one to freak out if my period is late etc. this is the best way I know to take this off my plate for good.

So I did it. And I'm very thankful to this community, bc believe it or not, it was reading all your stories and positive experiences that gave me the courage to go through with it. I've never had major surgery before aside from wisdom teeth removal so it was scary, but ya know what else is freaking scary? PREGNANCY. LABOR. CHILDBIRTH! which I've gone through enough to be kinda experienced about!

So far so good. The biggest irritation of the surgery was having my appt scheduled for 10:30, and then the Dr before us running late so my surgery didn't start till 1... But other than that it's been ok. Only minimal discomfort, no issues with anesthesia etc. I hope the smooth sailing continues.

I have to say, I'm jealous of all you younger ladies who know what you want- a child free life- and are out there making it happen for yourselves.