AITA for saying I want to see a male stripper if my boyfriend goes to a strip club with his dad?
I (F) need some perspective on a situation with my boyfriend (M) of three years (on and off).
While we were broken up and not in contact recently, he went to a strip club. I found out about it after we got back together and, while I didn't make a huge deal of it since we were single, I made it very clear that it’s not something I’m comfortable with in a relationship.
Fast forward to now: His family is going on a trip and I’m invited. He told me that he and his father want to go to a strip club together to get dances. I told him I was absolutely not okay with that. His response was to insist that his father is "begging" him to go and that since his mom is okay with it, I should be too.
To see his reaction, I "agreed" on the condition that I could get a dance too. He was originally overjoyed because he assumed I meant we’d get dances from women together. As soon as I said I wanted to see a male stripper, his mood completely flipped. He got upset, shut down the conversation, and said we’d talk "at a later date."
That was a few days ago. I woke up today still feeling really uneasy and hurt, so I reached out and said, "Hey, our last conversation isn't making me feel good and I'm kind of upset." He immediately told me I was "just trying to argue" and that he wouldn't talk about it until later.
He’s claiming he only wants to because he feels bad saying no to his dad,but I feel like there’s a massive double standard here. He expects me to be fine with him seeing other women perform because his mom is okay with his dad doing it, but he shot me down when I suggested the same for myself.
I don't know what to do or how to get him to see why this is bothering me so much. Am I being unreasonable? How should I handle this "later" conversation?