AITA for maintaining LC/NC with family member about to have surgery?
I have found out 4th hand that a sibling is about to have serious surgery. I have been LC for 12 months, NC for past 2 months.
The reason for cutting contact was this sibling accused me of horrendous (and untrue) things after the death of our parent and I bore the brunt of their grief, while trying to grieve myself. It made a devastating loss so much harder.
It got so bad that I had to seek independent legal advice, as I was sole executor of the estate and had to make sure I was legally protected due to their allegations. We haven’t spoken since, except to wish each others kids happy birthday. I had to seek counselling and go on medication for anxiety, largely due to the stress they put me through.
This isn’t the first time they have turned on me out of the blue, but it had escalated on previous behaviour.
I have been told through the grapevine that they are to have a major surgery. My husband is pushing me to reach out to them and to forgive I feel that if they wanted to know about the surgery they would’ve told me directly. Each time we are in the same location eg for kids birthdays my husband pushes me to interact with them, tried to get me to talk to them etc. I can’t forgive the accusations that made a traumatic time so much worse, without so much as an apology or an explanation for their behaviour. Now my parents friends, who I have great respect for, are also pushing me to forgive. AITHA for telling them all that it’s never going to happen?