The close to impossible math of vegan relationships
Hey, this is something I wanted to post about for a long while. A lot of people here struggle with finding a vegan partner and I feel like it becomes pretty much impossible after a certain amount of confounding variables.
Let me illustrate: I'm disabled, meaning I can't move from my country. No country on this planet accepts disabled people. This limits my dating pool but most people date within their country anyway.
There are 10 million people here. Roughly 1.8 million in my age range. Thankfully I am bi so no further restrictions here.
Let's say 0.05% are vegan for the animals. Let's say 0.01% are CC (and that is being generous as I have met 10x more vegans than CC people)
The overlap between these groups is higher than in the majority population but still pretty low, I'd say 10% tops.
So that leaves us with ~20 people that share my values in this entire country.
But wait there's more! These people can also already be in a relationship. Probably less likely than the average person because they would also likely want someone that shares their values but the real number is likely lower.
And now the real kicker - I am bedbound and require pretty much full time care from a partner. How many people do you think are willing to accept this? Would you?
My situation makes it mathematically impossible (TM) to find a partner but, surprise surprise, I did. I have an amazing boyfriend, that truly loves me, takes care of me each and every day, masks for me. But he's not vegan. I don't know if he will ever be open to it and I don't know if I should ever ask or just count my blessings or shut up. And I do truly love him too, this is literally the only one of my values he doesn't share.
There are multiple people in this community calling people like me horrible for dating non-vegans. But am I really that bad of a person? Is this really so wrong? Because the alternative is not being single, it is death. If someone won't take care of me, I will simply die.
I am curious to hear your thoughts and experiences.