u/Ghostyheadz

Relaying a story for my sister: Got invited to a popular girl's birthday party. (We were casual friends) There were probably a 100 that showed. The night was going fine, until about 9 pm when everything went down. Me and probably 7 others were lying on her bed and more were around the room (her room is the master bedroom) A friend and I were joking and she said "stop moving I'm trying to sleep" so to fight back I stood up and without thinking, stomped into the mattress. Immediately there was a loud crack and one corner of the mattress collapsed into the frame. The birthday girl walked in as we were getting off and asked, "Who did it?!” I quickly admitted to it, apologizing while summing up what happened. She angrily cleared everyone out of her room. She told us to enjoy the party elsewhere, acting as if she wasn't mad.

Earlier she had invited me to sleep over and my mom had just brought my things right after the ordeal. As I walked to bring my things to “birthday girl's” room, a close friend of the birthday girl met me at the door and said “birthday girl” didn't want me sleeping over anymore but to stay and enjoy the rest of the party. At this point staying had no value so I called my mom and went home incredibly upset at myself.

The next day, I texted her apologizing further, offering to pay for damages or to have my dad look at it. My parents contacted her parents, apologizing and offering to pay. They politely refused and said her grandpa would look at it. So everything seemed to be settled.

But about a month later, the friend who I'd been joking with had her own smaller birthday party. I went with my bf and we stuck together throughout the night. We both needed rides home and the original birthday girl had offered him a ride. We seemed to be on better terms so I figured I could just get a ride too because bf and I lived in the same direction. The same girl who played messenger earlier pulled me aside and told me that "birthday girl” wouldn't be giving me a ride. She claimed that her Cybertruck (the car her parents had gotten for her birthday) had cameras and her parents would be mad if they saw her taking me home. She was VERY adamant on taking my bf though.

We found a different ride but later I texted her asking her why she still seemed angry about something that happened a month ago. Mean words were exchanged but she did tell me that she had been sleeping on the couch for a month. She said her 6k custom bedframe was broken and unfixable and was reminded every time she tried to use it.

I understand the situation being my fault but there was nothing I could do. I apologized, expressed my regret and stupidity, and fam and I offered to pay. She chose to be nice for a while then would switch up when it was convenient. It's completely valid to be mad but to hold onto that for months and do all of what she did just threw me. We don't talk anymore and I don't care to see where she stands but she still probably hates me for it. AITAH?