Am I overreacting ?
My boyfriend M23 and I F21 have been together for about 6 months. For context, I have wanted to go go karting for YEARS. Before I even met him I talked about wanting to go, and since we’ve been together I’ve mentioned it constantly because I’ve been genuinely excited about doing it one day. He knows how badly I’ve wanted to go and I’ve talked about wanting to do it with him many times.
Money has been tight for me lately so I haven’t been able to just go whenever I want.
Today he called me and told me he was going go karting with his friend. It really hurt me because in my head I thought since he knew how much it meant to me and how badly I wanted to do it, he would wait and do it with me first or at least include me.
His response was basically “we can just go again another time,” but to me it doesn’t feel the same because the point wasn’t just doing go karting, it was sharing that experience with him because I’d been looking forward to it so much.
The other thing is this isn’t the first time I’ve felt this way. Sometimes there are things I talk about really wanting to do, but if we can’t do them immediately and the opportunity comes up later without me, they still happen without me.
What makes me question myself is I’ve seen him show this consideration with other people. I’m not trying to compare myself to them or say he cares about me less. I think I just wish I got that same consideration when it comes to things I’m really excited about.
I sent him a message explaining my feelings and specifically said I wasn’t angry, didn’t think he was in trouble, and that I wasn’t saying he can never do things without me. I was trying to explain that this was something I really wanted to share with him.
But when we called he got upset and said I was basically saying he can’t ever do anything without me and called the whole situation “batshit crazy,” which honestly made me question myself more.
Am I overreacting here? Am I being unreasonable ?
TL;DR: I’ve wanted to go go karting for years and have talked about it constantly throughout our relationship because I really wanted to do it with my boyfriend. He went with his friend without me, which hurt because I thought he’d wait or include me knowing how much it meant to me. I explained my feelings and he got upset, said I was acting like he can never do anything without me, and called the situation “batshit crazy.” Am I overreacting or is wanting that consideration reasonable?