gf 18 F refuses to stop friendship with ex after i 18 M opened up about how it causes me stress and discomfort, looking for advice or other views?
after her breakup with her ex (ended because he never spent time with her, never communicated with her when they argued, and they split because he admitted to not loving her anymore, they only went out for a couple months 4-5) she remained friends with him after that.
we’ve been together for about 7 months now and it’s going so well, i grew to dislike her ex because of all the things he put her through, she has tendency to forget when someone wrongs her. after opening up to her and telling her how it makes me feel uncomfortable that she is still friends with her ex she tells me that she understands but finds it unfair to end a friendship with him. i now feel even worse about the situation as it’s gone to “she’s friends with her ex” to “she chooses to prioritise her friendship with her ex over my feelings”
i went on to talk to her once more about this telling her how her decision to keep being friends with him despite knowing how i feel mad me feel so much worse to which she tells me that she’s annoyed that i brought it up again.
just an add on, i fully trust her and know she would never cheat on me and i have never and will never accuse her of such but it’s a matter of me feeling very undervalued as her partner and humiliated to even be in a situation like this. in the past she has had bfs who forced to block her guy friends but that was a matter of distrust and jealousy, so she is worried about it spiralling into something like that, to me this is about an ex boyfriend not someone who is just a friend.
i feel really hurt by the fact that she chooses her friendship with an ex who i feel uncomfortable about over her love of her life. we obviously have very opposing views and i want to hear other peoples opinions on the matter, is this an overreaction or are my feelings valid.