u/Girlgirlanimegirl

i am a 26-year-old female, and I’m wondering how you actually attract people who are on the exact same wavelength as you. I’m a very active person, but unfortunately, I keep running into people who just prefer to lounge on the couch, or situations where I’m always the one who has to make the first move and initiate things. This happens in both friendships and relationships.
How exactly do you date in this case? I feel like some people just pretend to be active, but then it turns out they're actually not.
What are the things you look out for when dating?